So there is this girl at work that totally wants me. We went out to a club this weekend with a bunch of people from work and she told me. Not that it wasn't totally obvious. Anyway, I'm not that desperate, I think the idea of doing something taboo turns me on more then anything else.

What are your guys thoughts on this?

I wouldn't recommend it but to each his own. The reason I said that is you don't want to be seen as a home wrecker and karma could be a bitch whenever you decide to get married.I have incidences where married woman have came onto me multiple times. If you want to deal with with drama in the long wrong go ahead, it would be totally different if she just had a boyfriend I would say go for it.

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Not Every girl is going to be instantly attracted to you it is what you do that makes them attracted to you.

Think of the collective female opinion: If you are part of another woman cheating, you have a really good chance that you would cheat in YOUR relationship as well. If you respect *that woman's* relationship enough to not have sex with her, you will demonstrate your ability to stay faithful in *your own* relationship. And don't EVER be fooled- WORD ALWAYS GETS OUT. ALWAYS.

A few things to consider:

1. The alpha male-ness. By saying no, you are demonstrating your willingness to follow your moral convictions (whatever they are). This is a big DHV. Plus if she never sleeps with you, your frame outmatches hers- another DHV. Think aobut how your chances with other women is affected by this- you could even make this a DHV story to use for the rest of your PUA career.

2. Backlash from work. I don't know where you work, but if it is a professionally run business, they will frown heavily on affairs in the workplace. In the office world, that could cost you your job. In the military, there could be a number of *bad* things that results from something like this. Think carefully of the risks, my friend.

3. Possibility of getting with another girl. Just because this woman is throwing herself on you, doesn't mean she's the only available target in this situation. There's bound to be someone connected to this situation that you could go after. Switch targets man! This is one of those chances that you could use to demonstrate rather well that "Knight in Shining Armor" that every woman wants. Whatever you do, play your cards so that you don't get "The Dirtbag" label- be smart.

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I think it's pathetic on the woman's part if she is willing to have an affair. But it's equally pathetic on the other parties behalf too.

You hook up with trash, you're trash too then. Think hard on that brother, hold yourself to a higher standard

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Lefty, you raise some really good points.

The more I think about it the more the whole thing turns me off and ya definitely will cause more problems then it would solve. Don't want that dirt bag label. Too bad there aren't really any good looking girls at work to go after that aren't married...lol

Rob

It depends on the girl.

She has the right to chose whatever she wants and that is not your responsability. You are merely presenting an alternative. She doesnt have to go for you just before you happen to exist.

It is completely up to you, nobody here can tell you what you should think is right or wrong.

Ezo is right, it's up to you and your set of morals and standards.

Personally I would stay away from a married chick. You're a PUA and you have the choice. You don't have to be a homewrecker. And, as already mentioned, when word gets out about it, the variety of consequences that could stem from it don't seem to outweigh the advantages of sleeping with her.

~Deebo

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Stay away from her, you wouldn't want this done to you right?

ya, well I already turned her down, I was just weighting my options. Not gonna go through with it. The ways its going, she will probably be separated sooner then later anyway, the I'll be there to comfort her

Rob

Pretty sleazy. It pisses me off when the person getting cheated on gets more pissed at the person they got cheated on with than the person cheating on them, but if you know she's married -- have some class, bro.

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I personally would not do it. A girl once tried to pretend she wasn't married (I had no idea, she was like 21) and the second I found out I just told her it wasn't going to work.

Though if she's that willing to have an affair with you, it's pretty likely she's going to have one eventually, and her marriage is screwed regardless. I wouldn't do it purely out of the risk of being caught in a shitstorm

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I wouldn't try it with married women because of morals. I have respect for myself and others. I believe in what goes around comes around. There as so many more chicks out there whom are not married so I'll game them!