For about a week, a cute girl in one of my classes and I have hit it off. We text back and forth every class (nothing serious, usually inside jokes or really random things for laughs, one class we were planning a fictional getaway). This past weekend, I invited her to a Super Bowl get-together one of my friends was throwing. She's not a big football fan, but jumped at the opportunity and we both had a good time.

While we're clicking very well, this week presents some complications. For starters, she is visiting her future grad school from Thurs-Sun. I guess this gets me out of a potentially awkward Valentine's Day situation, but later in this post you'll see the issue with this.

The bigger problem is one of my good friends. We're all in the same class, he knows her as well (we met her at the same time). While he has a gf and doesn't seem like one to cheat, he's close to hitting on her. He's suggested them hanging out; luckily she hasn't said yes. My friend is extremely outgoing and has a past of doing weird things with things like this. He'll ask girls to go to dinner as friends (and he has a gf). At the same time, he encourages me to take her out (as if I didn't know). While we're good friends, he's a confusing character.

Anyway, looking ahead, Monday is a perfect day for a date. We don't have class because of President's Day. I'm usually pretty good with the actual asking out, but her trip presents a problem. I don't want to ask her out while she's away. I can text random inside joke stuff to her, but I want to either call her tomorrow/Wednesday or wait until she's back on Sunday. Asking her out Wednesday for a Monday date may be too far ahead, but asking her out one day before - on a travel day and Valentine's Day at that - may be too close.

So two questions:
1.) When should I ask this girl out? Out of the two days, one is too early and the other is too late. My friend has hinted at them doing something Monday for w/e reason, but I have a feeling she'd pick me over him.
2.) How do I deal with my idiot friend? While I don't think he's trying to really get with her (again, he's weird with how he's friends with girls), he's damn close to hitting on her.

I dont think you should ask her out on a "date" cause if she just wants to be friends that will ruin your friendship as well as make it awkward in class.
Instead ask her to "hang out" which from the sound of it she will. Then when you guys are hanging out try to feel her out and she responds well go for kino then close.

As for your friend. If you guys are "good" friends why not just tell him to stop?

but if you're confident she likes you better I think you should let him try because while he fails you will look good. "IF HE FAILS" make sure she's not interested at all.

The thing is, I have three months until I am done with college. Sitting back and waiting does absolutely nothing.

If she says no to the date...I only have three months to go. Sure, dealing with her may be a little bit awkward, but I also have my friend in the class. I can just hang with him (for whatever reason he sits on the other side of the room).

I'd prefer doing something than just hanging out. I'm athletic and she's somewhat athletic, so that could work. While we like some of the same TV shows and have a couple DVDs from them, I'm not my best in that role.

I'll let my friend know the next time I see him to tone it down. I know that's just who he is (overly outgoing), but I'll explain why he needs to quit it. He may complain, but there won't be a fight. Additionally, I will not let him try. Makes little sense to allow that risk.

MONKEY WRENCH: Apparently, the girl I am interested in is not going to visit her grad school this weekend. That means, I'm back to a situation I didn't want to be in.

I have the option of going home from Thurs evening-Monday afternoon. Entering today, I was leaning towards going home and seeing some old friends for a few days. This girl was going to be away for the weekend, I'd have nothing to worry about...not anymore.

If she wants to hang out or go on a date this weekend, I'd consider staying. If not, obviously I'll be packing my bags.

Now, I'm unsure if, A.) I want to go home this weekend, and B.) When to ask her out or what to do on Valentine's Day.

Well there are many things to do on this but the first thing is Get back your control.

Grab your friend and just let him know the facts of life. You are interested in this girl, you have priority and settle on that (aka - don't tell him to stop talking to her, thats just a bitchy thing to do, but let him know that basic courteousy applies.)

With her, again grab control. A you don't know her well enough to do the whole add chocolates and flowers thing, so ...

Ask her, "where you taking me for V-Day?" Put it in her court but be prepared to do something fun and cute. Like take her to the local climbing gym, mini putt, heck a hike with picnic basket (somewhere warm), skating and hot chocolate (somewhere cold). OR You simply go along the lines of "I was planning on doing this ... you could join ..."

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Thanks. This will play out one of two ways, depending on if I stay on campus or if I head home this weekend:

-If I stick around, I could use your V-Day line.
-If I go home, I'll try to set something up for the evening I get back (Monday).

The bigger question for me right now is if I will be home or if I will be on campus this weekend. I'm torn.