It's about 2:50am at the time of this writing, and I'm just about to curl up under my covers and go to sleep to prepare for a long trip back to Canada tomorrow. However, before I do I thought that I would share something that has affected my game recently and hopefully you can take something positive from it.

If you've spoken with me via PM or in the chat room, you know that my 'game' tends to revolve a lot around speed seduction. I found the topic so fascinating that I've even gone forward and done a recognized qualification in the field of hypnotherapy. However, I've experimented, used and continually utilize other aspects of social dynamics in my approaches and interactions. A lot of people tend to bicker and quarrel as to which method is the best and which 'guru' has the most genuine skill. I recently witnessed a conversation between some members here who were arguing over which PUA was the best based on the criteria of their success rate and their role played in Neil Strauss' book The Game. First off, why the latter point was deemed relevant to the discussion is beyond me, and if anyone reading this thinks it does I suggest you re-evaluate your motivation for being here. We come here for self improvement and better social skills, not to turn a fascinating adventure that happened to a few people into an ongoing soap opera. Just a thought.

But this very gracefully brings me to the point of this post. There are numerous methods and programs out there marketed in the seduction niche, all with different lines, routines, tactics and methodology, but one element remains constant. Consider for a moment language, widely considered the main tool for seduction (be it a pattern, routine, or statement made up on the fly). Humans created language in order to communicate with each other. Presumably we first developed sounds for resources essential to our survival. Water, food, danger, etc. As we have progressed we have developed terms such as fascination, love, connection, and other abstract concepts. Much of our experience as people is intangible, an internal process we go through which is unable to be fully explained by words. Words are symbols, they are dead. Empty. They are just the representation of things we see or experience, and a word itself has no value other than what we attach to it.

This is a very important concept. As we know little of our communication is conveyed through the words we use, a large percentage however is communicated through our tonality and intent. The feelings, purpose and emotions that are behind the words. All great 'pick up artists' have mastered one great element of the game, and that is conveying their intent. Be it through words, body language or touching, the intent is there. When interacting with women (or anyone for that matter) always have a clear picture in your mind what your intent is, and what outcome you want. Granted, many suggest that you should pretend not to be involved with the outcome and to 'not care' what happens to suggest an abundance mentality. I argue that this is impossible, we all are focused on the outcome of an interaction with women or we wouldn't be here, would we? By attempting to repress these feelings down, it comes across as a potentially creepy/weird subcommunication that women pick up on very quickly. Embrace your intent, and ensure that it comes across when you speak. Give the symbols life.

For those that may take this too far, I am not saying that you should be oggling a women with your tongue hanging out and drooling on her lap. Intent must be exercised with control, which will come with time and practice, and also the ability to calibrate based on the situation (this too comes with time and practice). But women aren't stupid, don't insult their intelligence. If you ask a girl for "her opinion on something" in a club, she knows whats up. Trying to hide it just makes you look like a bit of a tool. Focus on what you want, express that vibe through your words and actions, while always calibrating as the interaction changes. In terms of abundance mentality, I do think this is a powerful subcommunication. However, you can want to have sex with a girl and have that vibe come through when speaking with her but also know that if it doesn't work out you have other options. This idea of "I really don't care if I get laid with this girl" is good if you really, truly believe it, but most of us don't. I don't. If I see a girl, start an interaction, and then it doesn't work out, I will be disappointed. Does that make me an 'AFC' or a 'chode'? No, it doesn't. It makes me someone who knows what he wants and is disappointed when he doesn't get it.

To wrap up the main points; be aware of your intent and focus it clearly in your mind when speaking with a girl (or, again, with anyone). All of the guys who are successful in this field know this, but not everyone talks about it. Words are dead, your intent gives them life.


-M

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Diploma in Clinical Hypnosis -- GHR & NHS