Dear AFC Adam,

First of all, thanks for answering all these countless queries... very cool.

So here's my situation - it's a little long, but I was hoping to get advice from the best because I don't want to mess this one up:

I met this girl the other night through a friend so approaching was no issue - seriously possibly the most gorgeous girl I've ever seen... high aspirations (law school), just like me (grad school). I'm fairly positive she was in the miss USA pageant as well. But anyways, we hit it off, talking alone by ourselves in a bar for about an hour. Lots of laughs, smiles, touching and stories. About 20 minutes til the bar closed, one of her friends came up and asked if she could borrow her from me for a moment. She replied to her friend "no! we're having a really nice talk!" but the friend convinced her to go for a moment. About 5 minutes later, the gorgeous wonder came up and asked for my number and if I would like to get breakfast in the morning and continue our conversation (she was leaving at noon to go home and back to work, about 2 hours away). We arranged breakfast and split our ways for the night. Then in the morning she sends me a text saying "So i definitely forgot i am meeting my family for breakfast. i apparently completely ignored that last night. i really did enjoy talking and meeting you though..." so i said i would let it fly this once because it was family, but next time she owed me dinner. she said absolutely and we chatted a little more, then done.

I was wondering how to approach the situation: I haven't called or talked to her since that morning, which was 2 days ago. she only lives 2 hours away, which in Montana (where I live) isn't too terribly far. I want to connect with her again, but I don't want to sound needy and I definitely want to make her my girlfriend. I was thinking of calling her tonight but once again, I don't want to sound needy or fill her head with a bunch of fluff talk especially after having such great conversations the other night. Like I said, she's 2 hours away and lives in a city where ironically, my uncle is mayor... and she's a politics guru (funny, right?). I know the connection was there, I just don't want to base my approach on waiting around to see if she'll come back. Please help! I can tell that I would be making a big mistake if I let this one get away.

Thanks

Thanks for the reply Adam. Developing the abundance mentality has actually been fun. I sort of never thought of myself as a guy who would enjoy being single, but once you start seeing a constant stream of results it actually becomes a lot of fun. The HB 8 and I are having movie night as my house this week, should be a good time. I appreciate you taking the time to answer my post.

So Adam,

I posted just above here and I'm kind of continuing from that, but anyways, I ended up calling her and we had a nice conversation and agreed to have dinner sometime. However since she is in the process of moving (and since she already lives a ways from me), we decided it would have to be on a weekend, but not immediately. I want to keep on her mind in the days while I wait for our get-together, but I'm doing a poor job. I'm trying to think of ways to remind her of me or just to keep in contact until the time comes. Texts, facebook, or whatever... I'm just looking for something. Since our relationship isn't strong enough I can't really use suggestive or innuendo-like comments, so I'm trying to think of something that might spark a little conversation that won't creep her out or put me in the friend zone.

Thanks again

Hey there Adam, me again :p.

Just watched a video/preview of you on youtube demonstrating a couple of openers - and the description said it was part of a programme you were to be launching -
so I was wondering what programme that would be 'cus it looks very helpful - and also when it would be available .

Kind regards

hi Adam
So,we are 2 friends flirting for some weeks now,i would say i am the "hunter" like 70% of the time.The questions are :
1.after i show high investment in her and low value(trying to gain her attention,arguing for silly stuff,asking many questions) and after she obviously shows disinterest should i prove value with willingness to walk away(freezing) ?
cause i see a lot of girls doing this,and even you said most girls act alpha.If it's not ok,then what should i do after she shows disinterest ? Because during the last 2 days,i have been showing tons of low value,and i believe this might be the end.
2.I like to say bad things to her sometimes,maybe just for the sake of breaking comfort but she pretends to be really upset by that.However i don't believe what i say is that harsh.How should i react to that,without over-reacting ?
thanks

Hey Adam!
I went sarging last night at this club in Houston called Rich's.Most of the night went well and I used a lot of your meta game principles during the night (although i went out with one male friend instead of female friends). Because of the fact that me n friend r really good dancers we got to go on stage and battle each other in front of the crowd...the crowd loved it and we even had sum ppl throwing money on stage for us. Well by the time we got down our social proof was thru the roof. So i used tht to my advantage and was pretty much able to open any set (n i did) but for sum reason i was not able to sexually escalate or keep an interesting conversation long enough to escalate..so initially every girl would be really into me but the conversation would start to die out and i would lose all emotional momentum,so instead i just go for the number close or facebook close because of fear that i would ruin all chances of anything happening if the conversation kept going. I would really like to get past that and start getting sum kiss closes and f-closes...any advice? or suggestion on material i should purchase?

Hey Adam.
I took your advice and started a few casual conversations with some class mates and I have been hanging round with them a bit more. Thanks for that.
I have another problem. I can get dates quite easily online. The problem is that once I'm actually there, I have no idea what to say. I try to think of something to say and my mind goes completely blank. Funny thing is I can talk all day online, but not in person. I know you're very anti-routines, but I think if I had a few that I could come up with to get a good conversation started it would help. You're the only normal person I can think of to ask, I don't wanna be talking about my little pony or who lies more lol...
Could you give me some ideas for some routines or good openers to get a good conversation started?

Hi Adam

Now dude for your BIGGEST, and possibly hardest ever question right here! Bare with me you'll understand my problem Me and a friend have discussed over the last few months about UK women. I can't hand on heart say I've ever rated a UK woman at a 8 or 9 (10s don't exist. Perfection is boring). The first truly jaw-dropping bird I ever saw (also my first pick-up success) happened to be American with some German roots.

Then I travel to travel to Las Vegas with a mate or some event thing. For some reason we end up buying some $8 pink fluffy hat. Thought - why not? So I am at this bar and the second truly jaw-dropping girl I've ever seen starts chatting ME up. Some speccy UK geek gets chatted up by a model!! wow! I know you aint a big 'overt' peacocking fan but I was dressed smart, just with a pink fluffy hat. I think if you wear something genuinely for the fun of it then it's fine (peacocking is a very much misunderstood term). Anyway, so 2nd time I've met a 9 and she happens to be ANOTHER American.

Now my friend likes blonds, especially Swedish chicks. Anyway, he is going yoga and some chick walks in that he rates at a 9. He's like wow a fit English chick, he can't believe it, so he approaches... and boom she's Norwegion!

So Adam what the hell is going on here? American Women - Aweomse! European Women - Awesome! So why are UK women so unattractive? Personality as well, it's terrible. Can't even have a decent chat with a UK chick unless she is over 50 years old ffs! Is it us just being English means we find foreign women more attractive? There may be exceptions I admit, but I have never met one.

How do you respond when a girl says, "I dont't know if my boyfriend would like us hanging out..." I've come up with some good responses on the spot, but what would you do?

Hey Adam,

I think that's absolutely awesome that you actually take the time to answer people's questions, I'm sure you got a lot on your plate.

I am new to your stuff, so forgive me if I ask a question you cover in one of your products, but do you have any basic advice for classroom game at a college? I'm talking about a small school, with about 30 people per class.

Anything you can give me would be great man! Thanks

Right did wat ya Said adam and posted on here cheers

I got this chick im seeking. hooked up with her last weekend on sat. went to drop her off. she put the old oh i don't wanna sleep on the first date. didn't know wat to say, so let her off and went home. now i find out my mate cos its his friend, and known her for a while now wants her cos he got jelous. he confronted her, and she said she liked me, but also agreed with him that she liked him and was happy she hooked with me cos he came out and told her. well fuck him, he's cutting my lunch and its too bad, i want her, and I need some advice to hold attraction. she doesn't seem interested. whenever im on facebook she never talks to me. and if she does i initiate convo each time. not her. i really want her, but my mate is ruining me and he's bein greedy cos he's got other chicks on the go and i haven't. wat do i do adam. you seem to have all the answers

Hay Adam, I'm out often but rely heavily on my verbal game (In which I think I'm very solid at). I ran across your dance floor game demo, and I was very impress.


If possible, can you give me some tips on Dance Floor Game?


- Thanks!

Hey Adam,

Ive hit a bit of a stickign point here and I think I know what Im doing wrong but I jus need a confirmation. Im goin for what you had which is good friends with benfits kinda thing with multiple girls. Nwo i meet the girls build great attraction some comfort. theyll hang out whatever but then theyll start backing off now i know its not the loss of attraction cuz Im buildign it all the time but Im wonderign if its because Im tellin them I dont want a relationship but then onyl invitign them out at night (basicly to hook up). Im thinkin i should be inviting them out for more friendly day stuff to build more comfort and show em that we really are friends while all the while kjeepign attraction. i wouldnt do this until after we made out.

Basicly what Im askign is after Making out should i then proceed to Friendy comfort building behavior like shopping and hanging out in the day then proceed back to night game for the hookup? I feel liek thats what Ive been doing wrong cuz the girls then see me as a player then back off especially the type of girls im goin for.

Secondly is it possible to do damage to a relationship with a hook up by being to Cocky funny to long. I know negs can hurt you if you've already built attraction does cocky funny apply as well?
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