Okay. so social psychology shows that girls look for traits in a mate that their father possesed the same as guys look for traits that their mother had. has anyone ever tried taking advantage of this. i think it could be a good tool to build rapport and comfort for a girl you've know for a little while.

I was wondering if anyone has ever tried adapting some subtle things about a girls father and how its worked. obviously you'd have to have known her for awhile. like a long time friend that's re-entered your life or trying to break out from the dreaded LFBF zone. I was thinking about trying it with this girl I knew in grade school and just met back up with in college. but i thought I'd check the forums first. If anyone has any ideas/ experience let me know!

Thanks guys
-Nemosaurus

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Actually I'm stumbling onto the same line of thinking. I've been reading "King, Warrior, Magician, Lover" (recommended by David DeAngelo) and the book basically encourages the "mature masculine". Father-ness is also a part of that.

Pretty much, women are attracted to mature men. Mature men make good fathers. A woman seeks to mate with a man of high value *because* of his ability to provide/ protect her and her offspring. So, a man that behaves like a good father does, is attractive.

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hmm sounds like an interesting book. How much have you learned from it so far?

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It's heavy into Jungian psychology, so it basically says that men need to align themselves with the archetypes of mature manhood.

It lays out the four aspects of manhood- King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover- and describes the man- version and the boy-version of each energy. It also describes the ways that those energies can be misused, either by boys are by men. There's a lot of information in there, and it's pretty important stuff. I would suggest reading it- it's relatively short and cheap.

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hmm sweet I'll check it out. Thank you for the recommendation

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