I've got a situation with a girl I met a few weeks ago. We've been out on a few dates, she's slept over at my place (no f-close), and there is definitely attraction. She is a pretty bad texter and will never initiate contact, but she always picks up when I call her, or lets me know when she will call back if she is busy.

Anyways, she's really busy with school (and will be until the summer), and setting up dates was tough enough before, but now she has gotten a job as a bartender on the weekends. So, seeing her now would be kind of like just trying to slot myself in when she had a free moment...

What would you guys do? Do I leave it up to her to let me know when she is free, or should I force the issue and push meeting on certain days and try to get her to commit to specific dates? I've got other girls on the go, but she is kind of my #1 choice. My plan was to leave it up to her, keep occupied and I figure if she wants to see me she will initiate and try to set something up...

She does sound busy and that could work to your advantage. Busy girls are stressed and you could become a welcome distraction by making time with you entertaining and refreshing. Just don’t be caught talking to her about her stress and problems. If you become the person that makes her feel alive and fun you could become an addiction to her. Make your time equally as valuable and let her see other girls interested in you. Keep flirting with her and realize you need to increase the temptation for her to be with you. If you do all this and then are slightly unavailable yourself, she might start pinning you down for dates because she values the way she feels about herself when she’s with you.

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T_T sleep over and no f-close...

Maybe that was ur only chance haha nah.

Umm, maybe frame it so that your also busy...try get it so that she wants to see u...IMO seems like ur being abit keen SPAM.

Is it possible she's just making excuses not to see you? A busy girl will still make the time if she's into you. A sleep over with no f-close = disaster in my books. If people know she spent the night with you, they already assume you screwed, so now people think she's a slut and she didn't even get any play for her trouble. Quite a rip off. I'd be happy if you proved me wrong, but I think you missed this bus.

You guys couldn't be more right. Everything was great, my game was pretty good in getting her to stay over (she kept saying she should get going, I kept changing the subject), then I froze. I don't know, I actually care about this girl so I didn't want to push things too quickly, even though I probably should have.

The good news is she isn`t making up excuses not to see me. She texted me last night, saying she wants to get together during the week. So, I'm going to invite her over again. If I don't f-close, I will probably hand in my resignation as a PUA Thanks for your help guys, I`ll let you know how it goes.

Sweet, handle that poor girl.