Hey guys,

I keep looping into the same stupid afc problem. My date game is solid. I can get a get a girl into bed in a high percentage of first dates and also decent and escalating physical contact etc, but i totally go all afc when i meet a girl that i really have interest in.

In this case, met a great girl, things went well throughout 11st date. made out with her at the end of the night. Two days later just send a light hearted joke email about something we talked about, not at all signalling i'm looking to meet up again. Then try to contact her today (5 days later) and she gives me the whole you're a great guy but i don't like you that way routine. Somewhere along the way my game went wrong. one mistake was, i viewed her facebook and google searched her in various things she's on and think she noticed that and maybe is weirded out by it. i thought it was normal to google people to find out more about them but maybe she thought it was afc and intrusive? only other thing was that my reapproach for a 2nd date was not solid

now i'm dead in the water, because she's already said she doesn't see chemistry (despite the fact that she's the one who started making out with me at the end of our first date).

anyways...any recovery strategy on this, or once a girl puts in you that box, move on???

honestly i go out with 3-4 chicks a week and this one is one of the few i met that has some real potential to be seen as more than a bang.

That's weird seeing as you two made out. Was she very drunk? Did she actually give you any IOI's or did she just kinda go along with kissing you because you went for it?

give me some more details about how the date went. and what exactly did you say when you contacted her 5 days after?

Date went well. By the time we left the first bar, she was walking very close to me and making every effort to stay in physical contact. She had two glasses of wine the whole night, so seriously doubt the drunk factor. At the second bar, I put my arm around her and pulled her in close, and she didn't resist. I have no clue how this didn't go well. Two three days later i had a neurosurgeon chick who was totally eating out of my hands, so i think my rapport building is solid. In retrospect i think if i had given it a few more days and re-approached better maybe it would gone over well.

I'm usually just let these situations go because once a girl puts you in the wrong category in her mind, there's no cominig back, but if there was a rock solid way to reopen this box, I wouldn't mind trying. There's always the reapproach with something fun to do after a few weeks, but just seems like at that point the girl would think, why is this guy back in the picture now. Only annoying thing in nyc is that there are a tonne of chicks and getting laid is easy, but meeting a real dateable chick is not so straightforward