Went out for a meal on Monday (her idea) as she didnt want to do something casual like play pool, or just chill at mine for abit. This had been building up for the past 5 weeks, and finally I suggested we go out (via MSN). I knew she was at least somewhat interested as a good vibe had been between building between us at work for a while (I see her once every Wednesday), and we usually chat/have a laugh before she gets back to work.

Anyway, this wasnt a romantic meal, it was casual dinner i'd say. Conversation was flowing, laughing, joking, telling a few stories etc. At the end of the night (we were out about 3 hours, drinks before the meal), gave her a hug (didnt think a kiss was appropriate just yet). I didnt contact her that night, and waited til the next evening to text her.

This is where I think I fucked up. I text her once, just something small about a conversation we had the previous night. I didnt get a reply, so i text her again about 1.5 hours later, and said " We had a fun night, what do you feel about us?"... she replyed saying she had been watching a film, but that she had a fun night, she then moved right on to asking how my day had been. (Avoided the question).

We text back and fourth two or three times, and I just felt the vibe had died, so I just finished my last text with "see you tommorow. The next day when I saw her, we spoke briefly, she was friendly, nothing mentioned about the meal. It just felt like I had been put into the friend zone. We havent communicated since.

Im just trying to workout where I went wrong? Maybe she wasnt massively inetrested from the start? Or perhaps it was always just a friendly thing from her perspective?

But something messed up!

Im 23, she is 21.

Well for starters learn from your mistake then move on if there's no chance of salvaging it.

The problem is its hard to judge what you did wrong during the meal (some people will maybe say why or why not you shouldn't have done this but I'll leave it them) as we didn't see how you behaved while you were there. The thing is that maybe you left out any kind of sexual vibe or indeed pick up on any. It may very well have been that you were able to build a certain degree of comfort between her and you but didn't move in, didn't flirt enough and maybe didn't generate enough sexual tension.

Honestly I would very much doubt it was two texts where you fucked up. What you also have to bear in mind is that if a girl doesn't text back straight away it may not be because she's not interested, she may be in the middle of something.

I think there will be people who can give a better perspective on what you're saying but this is just my guess and also my opinion.

I would suggest that perhaps a kiss wasn't appropriate at that moment because you didn't build enough tension. Remember, master PUAs kiss girls within minutes in both clubs and day game. If you frame your interactions with too much of a romantic feel and not enough of a sexual feel, you're setting yourself up for the friendzone.

Work on your sexual communication and go for the kiss even if you're not totally sure you'll succeed. It's better to be forced along your way by awkwardness than it is to get hung up on a girl who has lost interest.