Hi guys,

Was wondering, If a girl talks about hoping there will be sexy guys at a party you invited her too, that must be an IOD?

We have been out together once or twice and I work with her.

I know that if a girl sees you as a friend, you should talk to her about sex and being with other girls as she will start relating sexual feelings to you, so I kinda applied that here but did I take it too far?

how should you proceed in this situation.

This is over live chat:

She asks if there are going to be hot guys at this party I invited her too.
Me: I say yes, she just needs to bring her slut shoes (private joke)
then proceed to tell her the folllowing
Me: I feel sorry for the next girl I sex
Her: Why... 30 second man?
Me: no... opposite, I am going to break her.
Me: Actually going to buy a helmet for my flat
Me: Maybe some armpads
Her: HAHHAHA, think you crossed the line!
Me: Ok stop talking dirty to me!
Me: I gotta work
Me: lataz

What are your guys thoughts, any feedback would be appreciated

I thought that was actually really funny

But yeah I think she has no interest in you (anymore). You can always rekindle that interest by being smooth at that party (with other girls). Make her see you can do better than her.

If she starts cockblocking you, kino her and escalate.

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Thanks for the response!

Actually brings up another issue of mine.

I find myself in situations where I am semi friendly with a girl and she may come out with me alone and know no one else.

We go out to a club and we follow each other around because I feel bad that she doesn't know anyone and don't want to leave her alone.

Should I just do my own thing? Should I consistently try to include her in all conversations with my friends?

There was a little debate on that on the forum not too long ago, but I can't find the post sorry.

Everyone has their own opinion about this. What I do is when someone comes up to me that I know, or when I run into someone, I shake his hand, talk to him/them for a minute or 2, and then introduce him/them to the girl ("oh this is *name* by the way, she's new here be nice to her!")

This way you sort of do your own thing but you still involve her. When I see a girl that I know, I tell the target "hold on" and go up to the girl, kiss her cheeks, talk for a minute, point at my girl and go back to her.

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Going too sexual without having the balls to back it up. Sexual jokes must be delivered with a strong frame, not over the net unless you set the frame clearly!

You should let her fly solo for a little bit at least in the clubs as a lot of guys are going to think she is in a relationship with you. And this is going to make it harder for her to meet people. As far as doing your own thing you should. I am not saying to never include her in conversations and what have you, but if she never goes solo she is not going to meet other people.

Could you please elaborate, it would be much appreciated.

Does this include things such as talking about other girls and joking about what u would do to them in bed (Is this not off putting to a girl) - in real life. Basically being very sexual in real life?

Got any tips on setting that frame?

BTW, she did not come to the party and I haven't been paying her any attention since, now she is giving sexual connotations like mad over chat. (Since the comment about me sexing other girls)
- How she screams during sex
- How I must show her how to dance for a strip club cause "I have the moves"
- Asking for massages

those are all ioi's but i think u should stop telling her what you would do to other girls. she gets the point. your sexual.
if you go to over the top then shes gunna think your talking shit. (alot of girls i ask say that they think the guys who dont talk about sex get laid because they arent compensating)
now she knows your sexual so sex her already!

Sexual jokes are the tools of nervous AFC's who never get any play. This is the only way they get to release their sexual tension. They jack off to porn all day long and develop nervous, guilt-ridden self conscious attitudes towards anything sexual. Then they release this tension through "ha ha" jokes regarding sex. And they never involve reality into the jokes. Their sexual reality is non-existent so it's always some make-believe story about what they would do to some non-existing person in a non-existing situation.

What happens is two-fold. The sexual joker sets himself up with the impossible. Really? Are you really going to put a helmet on her to prevent head injuries? The more you go down this path, the more difficult it gets to set up a real sexual situation.

Secondly, girls are pretty perceptive. They know when they are turned on and when they aren't. Have you ever seen a James Bond movie where he seduces a girl and she goes, "Ha ha ha . . . you're such a kidder!"??

Settle down. Tune yourself into reality.