Monkey, I did what you suggested man.

I was direct with my customers and damn... I got five phone numbers in two days! I would never had dared to do that at my job before... but now I feel like going to work more than ever, no joke. Thanks again for the advice. You've made things much easier for me.

There's no new stuff on the mature woman, but yeah, she'll get it straight sometime soon too.

Glad to have been of service, sir.

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Just a little bump. ^_^

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hey I wana hear your input on, girls inviting their friend when we go out :S

I posted this elsewhere but I think it's appropriate to post it here.

I have a quick question. I'm working on setting up a date (it's semi-confirmed, just need to come up with a time and firm confirmation) on Sunday to go ice skating with an HB9 I've been talking to, through a mutual friend, for the past couple of days. This will potentially be the first time we'll meet up one-on-one (she's been throwing IOIs at me so I know there's interest) and as I was talking to my mutual friend, she suggested that she and one more friend (a girl that HB9 doesn't know) to come with to lessen the pressure on HB9. I didn't commit to anything and the ball is in my court, but our mutual friend is the one that made the introduction between me and HB9, so she's on my side. As for the other friend, the girl that HB9 doesn't know, she wouldn't pose as a problem.

I still stand by doing this one-on-one but I'm just wondering if perhaps making it a group meet-up will, overall, make things easier for me in the sense that me and HB9 have a mutual friend that will subtlety promote the idea of us linking up and what not (basically, pumping up my social proof)?

Thoughts? When I do call HB9, what should my plan of attack be to make sure she commits to a firm time?

Dayghost: If they're inviting their friends to come with them, you're not on a date. If she's bringing friends with her to non-date meet-ups, she doesn't trust you. That isn't to say she thinks you're going to do something wrong (though it could). It could just as easily mean she doesn't trust you to keep her interested. This is something that should have been worked through in comfort; you only need a few things to get this ball rolling, but one of the most important is that she is comfortable with being alone with you.

e.corleone: I realize this is a little late. Sorry 'bout that.

Don't bring friends. Even if the friends know your girl, don't bring them if this is going to be a one-on-one meet. It doesn't smooth things over, it complicates the matter. What was just you and her doing a thing becomes you and her doing a thing with your friends weighing in now and again on how it's going and offering advice to both of you and getting in the way of good moments or not interrupting you when they should be and saving it for good moments and wanting to do other things and inviting you and the girl along or worse just inviting the girl along or they're trying to save her from what they thing is a bad choice or they're trying to save you from what they think is a bad choice and... You get the point. It turns what should be a light sprinkling of drama (all good relationships have a light sprinkling of drama) into a goddamned shitstorm.

After a couple of dates, sure. But ask yourself this: how would you feel if you expected this to be a date and she brought three of her buds?

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