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PostPosted: Tue Jan 26, 2010 12:40 am 
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Messaged a girl sometime last week with the imaginary wedding/divorce opener, and went through that routine with her. Tried talking to her after, and it didn't really go anywhere.

Today I saw her online and started up a chat session, and we ended up talking for about half an hour. Seemed like we were having a good conversation and everything, then she kind of abruptly says she has to get going... so I just say ok, see you later and log off.

So what's a good next step? Do I just wait a day or two and try to start up a chat with her next time I see her online? Should I send her a message to try and schedule another chat? Maybe send her a message asking if she wants to get together?

Oh, the other thing is that after the wedding opener I asked if she wanted to get together and she said she'd need more time. Then this time she was telling me about a couple guys she'd met who had seemed normal, then turned out to be huge creeps (I had my own creepy girl story for comfort building, yay!) so she may be a bit more shy about getting together right away I think...


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PostPosted: Tue Jan 26, 2010 2:10 am 
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Eh, I was in the same predicament you are in a few days ago with someone I tried that on FB. I think (and in my case she was too) she is just being "nice" and polite by honoring your conversation. I don't think she has interest in you genuinely being that whole "creepy" statement gave me an IOD feeling.

Anywho, I'd let it go. If she didn't bite the bait immediately from that opener she's just fronting you.


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PostPosted: Tue Jan 26, 2010 4:06 am 
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Well, I don't know. I mean, when we did the messages before she played along with the act but said nothing outside of it... so it was kind of hard to judge if there was any interest. This time it really felt like a much better conversation overall... plus we started off talking about her getting a bad message just saying "you're hot" and joking around kind of lead to the other things. Hmm... here's the log, if you feel like slogging through... maybe I could use some pointers on that anyway:

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(6:26:49 pm)ME:so how've you been? (6:27:00 pm)HER:ok you? (6:27:19 pm)ME:pretty good, busy I guess... (6:28:05 pm)HER:lol just got an email "just wanted to let you know i think your hot" (6:28:16 pm)HER:delete (6:28:18 pm)ME:went to a dental school talent show Friday to support my friend Rosie... she spins a laundry basket for her act (6:28:25 pm)ME:lol... nice (6:28:37 pm)HER:lol thats interesting (6:29:04 pm)ME:I'll give him this though, it's much faster than thinking up something interesting and still getting rejected ;) (6:29:14 pm)HER:very true (6:29:25 pm)HER:the next giuy at least called me beautiful though (6:30:57 pm)ME:is there a specific adjective you're looking for? resplendent maybe? :P (6:31:52 pm)HER:lol (6:32:15 pm)HER:its just cheezy as a first email though (6:32:22 pm)HER:and it makes me feel like they just want sex (6:32:55 pm)ME:I can see that... (6:33:21 pm)ME:but you've gotta figure some girl out there replied, or guys would stop doing it... (6:33:23 pm)ME:hmm.. (6:33:28 pm)ME:or not, there's a lot of dumb guys out there I guess (6:35:23 pm)HER:lol i would believe either (6:36:09 pm)HER:i guess there must be some really slutty desperate girls out there who respond to that stuff (6:36:23 pm)ME:really? hmm... brb ;) (6:36:30 pm)HER:k (6:36:39 pm)ME:rofl... I was kidding (6:36:54 pm)HER:ooh i get it lol (6:37:07 pm)ME:so do you ever message a guy first? (6:37:13 pm)HER:not usually (6:37:31 pm)HER:honestly there usually isnt anyone worth messaging first (6:37:38 pm)ME:ouch (6:37:59 pm)HER:well not taht i spend hours on here looking for people to message eitehr (6:38:04 pm)ME:someone's standards are high ;) (6:38:21 pm)HER:well they have to be, you wouldnt believe the crazy guys ive met (6:38:40 pm)HER:and tehy all seem fairllly normal at first (6:39:20 pm)ME:ah, I see their mistake... I try to seem crazy at first so anything I do later looks normal by comparison ;) (6:39:53 pm)ME:so what's the craziest guy you've met? (6:40:42 pm)HER:haha (6:41:30 pm)HER:probably the guy who told me he wanted to see me again after we had been talking for 20 min... (6:41:55 pm)HER:and then he told my friend that she should sleep with his freind (6:42:20 pm)HER:and he told me taht she wasnt his type but 'he would fuck her anyway' (6:42:44 pm)ME:sooo... outgoing, knows what he wants AND looks out for his friends... sounds like what every woman wants ;) (6:43:15 pm)ME:please tell me his profile actually said that somewhere... would make it sooo much funnier! (6:43:32 pm)HER:haha that would be funny (6:44:42 pm)HER:ooh and then he told me i was the first girl hes liked in 3 years, like an horu into the date (6:44:43 pm)ME:I guess my craziest was... well, I met this girl and we hit it off a little. I ask her out, and then she's on facebook chatting me up all day the next day (6:45:04 pm)HER:lol (6:45:20 pm)HER:like 'im your girlfriend now' (6:45:22 pm)ME:the disturbing part was, she set up a double date with mutual friends, asked me 3 times if it was going to turn into a long term relationship, AND told her parents about me (6:45:34 pm)HER:omg (6:45:35 pm)ME:all before we'd actually gone on the date... (6:45:44 pm)HER:omg! (6:46:09 pm)HER:that is really creepy (6:46:22 pm)ME:yeah, a little (6:46:52 pm)ME:I mean, it's nice to know someone likes you... but at least pretend to be sane for a few days right? ;) (6:47:08 pm)HER:i know right (6:47:40 pm)HER:i once dated my best friends boyfriends best friend... (6:48:02 pm)ME:is that like a father's uncle's best friend's former roomate? (6:48:16 pm)ME:(Spaceballs reference, sorry if you haven't seen that movie...) (6:48:27 pm)HER:lol thats a great movie (6:48:46 pm)ME:awesome... so you've passed the first test ;) (6:48:52 pm)HER:but anyway...so my freind was really excited adn kept talking about our wedding and kids and stuff... (6:49:24 pm)HER:so i once make some comment about out kids being hot and i immediatelly went 'oh shit (6:49:26 pm)HER:lol (6:51:18 pm)ME:...? Did I miss something or are you not finished? (6:51:58 pm)HER:no it was just one of those things that probably made me seem creepy, saying that to him after like 2 months (6:52:05 pm)ME:ahh (6:52:10 pm)ME:rofl (6:52:15 pm)HER:but it was all my friend putting these thoughts in my head (6:52:58 pm)ME:I don't know, I mean it's not like you'd picked out names already... err... had you? (6:53:16 pm)HER:lol no (6:53:53 pm)HER:actually we were watching jon and kate plus 8 and my freind had said that our kids were going to look like those kids (6:53:58 pm)HER:because he was asain lol (6:55:01 pm)ME:never actually saw that show... although my friends John and Kate are amused by the name (6:55:14 pm)HER:lol (6:55:22 pm)HER:that must get old (6:55:57 pm)ME:I don't think they get that a lot, most of us are smart enough NOT to rehash a joke someone's probably heard a thousand times (6:56:23 pm)HER:yea but there is always some asshole who loves to do that (6:57:00 pm)ME:true (6:57:12 pm)ME:so are you one of those big reality tv junkies then? (6:58:14 pm)HER:not at all (6:58:22 pm)HER:actually i hardly ever watch tv (6:58:45 pm)HER:I end up watching the most tv when im in a relationship (6:59:11 pm)HER:becaues they always get me into some show (6:59:29 pm)HER:you? (7:00:11 pm)ME:off and on, there's a few shows I like but I end up recording them, then forgetting to watch them (7:00:23 pm)HER:i do that too (7:00:25 pm)ME:only really watch The Amazing Race as far as reality tv goes (7:00:43 pm)HER:oh ok (7:00:53 pm)ME:or Drawn Together... (7:01:00 pm)HER:i usually just watch hgtv while im foldling laundry (7:01:08 pm)HER:sometimes scrubs (7:01:20 pm)ME:hmm... I don't think I've ever watched anything on hgtv... ;) (7:01:26 pm)ME:watched far, far too much scrubs though (7:01:31 pm)HER:hehe (7:01:36 pm)ME:you seen any of the new season? (7:01:42 pm)HER:no (7:01:48 pm)HER:is it weird? (7:02:13 pm)ME:hmm... (7:02:48 pm)HER:its different right? (7:03:01 pm)ME:in some ways it's kind of awkward. Like, JD is kind of part of the show, but slowly being pushed off... and they replaced him with a new intern who's almost exactly like him but female (7:03:13 pm)HER:eew (7:03:18 pm)HER:aww and i love him too (7:03:25 pm)ME:and they replaced the Janitor with two security guards who aren't nearly as funny (7:03:45 pm)HER:they should have just ended it (7:03:50 pm)HER:and made a new show (7:04:20 pm)ME:yeah, but really it's still one of the better shows on tv (7:04:34 pm)HER:oh ok (7:04:41 pm)ME:or, as I usually end up watching it, on Hulu... (7:04:46 pm)HER:i thought it would be terrible (7:05:06 pm)HER:but i have to get going (7:05:08 pm)ME:nah, just not as good... kind of like a sequel (7:05:08 pm)HER:ttyl (7:05:14 pm)ME:ok... see ya :)
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 27, 2010 5:50 pm 
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Onoma persist and push for the meet next time you chat, not straight away but don't leave it too long, or the danger is it will just slide into a cyber-chat-friend thing


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