Hey, I'm new.

I've read The Game by Neil Strauss so I'm familiar with the community and what not. The advice I need is urgent so I'm going to get right to it.

I have a friend who's trying to hook me up with this girl she knows (my friend tells me she's allegedly a HB9) and so, this girl (I'll call her S) has this 21st birthday party last night at a club. I was invited through my friend but at the last minute, my friend couldn't make it so the decision came to whether or not I rolled through on my own. My friend gave me S's number and tells me that S wants me to text her to let her know whether or not I'm going to show up. I wait for about half an hour before I finally text S and tell her I might show up. We text back and forth for a little bit, just trying to figure out the details of her party and what not. Finally, after some teasing, I let her know I'll meet up with her.

While I'm in the process of trying to meet up with her, what's complicating the process is the fact that I don't know what she looks like. That's why I didn't know if I was going to show up after my friend told me she couldn't make it because she was going to make the introduction on her behalf. Anyway, S's phone dies so she hits me up on her best friend's phone and tells me she's on her way to a different club. I text her I'll be there. I show up and I ask her where she is and she tells me that she's by the bar. I try to look for her but again, since I don't know what she looks like, I don't have any luck finding her. I text her to meet me by the door but I don't get a response, so I leave the club because I don't feel like waiting.

Today during the evening, S texts me and offers me a lengthy apology that her best friend's phone died, she tried looking for me around the bar at the club, and that she feels really bad.

I haven't texted her back and I'm purposely not going to reply for roughly the same time it took for her to get back to me because I want that to act as "punishment" but I know this is my opportunity to neg her and allow her make it up to me, etc.

What should I do? What should I say in my text in response to her?

sounds like shes messing you around dude. if you still wanna meet her, say that she owes you a night out and she can pick you up from your house this time. that way if she doesnt show or is late, it doesnt really matter to you. also gives the perfect opportunity to take her back to yours at the end of the night, to collect her car/drop you off etc. without setting off her ASD!
good luck,
Phoenix

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Dude, just put yourself on the pedestal. Tell her that that usually never happen and that she owes you a cup of coffee or lunch

Thanks for the replies.

I went ahead and sent her a text this morning, telling her she seems like a nice girl but that she's already back to square one with me and that she owes me now. She replied back a few minutes later that she totally understood if I was mad at her and I told her that I'm real busy the next few days but that she should come out with me later in the week. She agreed and I left it at that.

Then late in the afternoon she texts me randomly and asks me if I have facebook, in which I tell her that I hope she's not a stalker but yeah, that I do have an account. I gave her my info and she said she'd look me up at home. I left it at that. A few hours pass and unfortunately, my phone's battery died so by the time I recharged it, she didn't send another text and I never got a friend request so I slyly acted as if I hadn't seen her text in a few hours and told her to let me know when she found my profile.

Nearly immediately, she responded back that she tried to look for me but didn't have any luck and I told her to give me her info, so that I looked her up myself. She did and I found her profile, to which I told her that I found her goofy but cute photo (she does look like a legit HB9 but still, a photo can be deceiving sometimes). She replied with a laugh, told me she thought she set her profile picture to private, and asked what else did I see? I told her not much else but jokingly stated that I'm sure her profile will amuse me.

Early in the morning, she confirmed me as a friend.

Basically, what I've been trying to do is throw some subtle negs at her here and there. From what I gather, it appears to be working. Am I right and also, do I need to keep throwing negs at her? Or do I need to stop with them?

Also, I know that I'll need to set up a meet-up with her in the next few days so how should I go about doing that?

Got another update.

I went ahead and called S around 6:30ish, she picked up literally after one ring, which surprised me a little bit but I took it as a good sign. I went ahead and said, hey goofy (to re-develop the connection I made to her last night when i texted her and called her picture goofy). She said hey and then I went right into a quick short story for about a minute or so, which got her laughing after I hit the punch-line. I paused for a little bit to see if she would say anything and she did, asking what I'm doing and I told her I'd be attending a meeting with our mutual friend later that night. S told me to tell our mutual friend that she said hi on her behalf and I told her I'd make sure to do so.

Then I went ahead and told her that I plan on ice skating on Sunday night and that she should come join me because I'm sure that I'd be more fun than whatever other plans she has for that day. She asked me what time and I gave her the option of 6 PM or 8 PM, whichever she preferred, and she told me that she'd let me know. At that moment, I probably should have told her to break whatever plans she had and make a commitment right there, but instead, I told her to let me know ASAP because I have a very busy schedule and I need to know about my plans a few days in advance. My rationale for taking that route in my response is that I'm going to "save" the 'break your plans' line when she does get back to me. Again, not sure if that's the right move but that's what I went with.

We chatted for another minute or two, then I told her I needed to go and that was it for the phone conversation. I read up on some material involving phone game so I thought I did okay.

I guess my question, after this sequence, is what should I do to make sure I get a confirmation for Sunday? She seemed interested (noticed some IOIs), given that she asked me what time, and the overall conversation went well. Any ideas?