One-itis...outside this site, few people know what that word even means. But here it may as well be a fucking curse word. From what I've seen, a huge number of PUAs will pretty much tell you that all one-itis does is fuck over your game. In many ways they are right.

In case you're part of the minority here who don't what we mean by that word, it basically means you place a large amount of value on one single woman and fail to recognize the fact that there are a shitload of other attractive women out there. If you've got a strong case of one-itis, (I speak partially from experience), you're gonna do a lot of shit that ruins your game. You're gonna to be clingy. You're gonna be desperate to always have her approval. You're gonna let the woman treat you like shit because she knows she can do whatever the fuck she wants with you, and you're tolerate it since you can't walk away. If after all this you still manage to get into a relationship with her, you're probably even worse off. She will definitely treat you as a doormat, and will likely cheat on you since you'll let her get away with it. Unless your one-itis miraculously dies suddenly during the relationship (and it won't), the relationship will probably end horribly. This is what every one-itis hating PUA is gonna tell you basically.

On the other hand, can one-itis (like jerking off or getting wasted, in my opinion) actually be a good thing in moderation? Say you're getting to know a girl, say in class or something like that, and she has a great personality. Unless all you think about is fucking 24/7, you'd obviously want more to do with her. Now women aren't stupid. Most women, especially HB8+, know that most guys just wanna fuck them first then see where it takes them. Is it possible to place value on these women (as in actually care if you see her again) without communicating that you're just afraid you'll never get a chance again to fuck her once she leaves?

Personally, I think that if you don't have a bit of one-itis, you're pretty much saying "I'm not gonna place value on any woman. I know I'm the shit and women everywhere want me. Women are my bitches and I don't need to care about them and think of them as friends cause I can find replacements just as easily as I can leave them. A girlfriend is not actually a friend. She's just a replaceable person who can fulfill my sexual urges." Harsh fucked up words but true if you think about it.

So this is a question for you guys who have some experience in the field. Once again, I'm fully aware of what most of you think of one-itis, and prejudice can cause people to say things they don't actually mean. But seriously think about it.
One-itis...is a bit of it good?

If you ask me, a small amount of one-itis is pretty much morally justifiable. If you have a small amount of one-itis, you'll realize that a woman is a person just like you. Precious, not something to be taken for granted, and DEFINITELY not your fuck toy.

I think the way the term one-itus has developed has become very misleading. When Nell Strauss wrote about this in the game i don't believe what he was trying to say was that it is bad to develop strong emotional feelings for a women, or dare I say it fall in love! Some guys get so obsessed with one girl that they don't think straight. This is particularly true when the feelings aren't reciprocated. They might start to send 10 texts a day or call them all the time, they may really lose their cool and act jealous. Its fine to develop feelings for a girl, even if it is a little earlier on in the interaction than usual. What is important is that you keep your head so you don't mess up. Playing it cool when all you think about is this one girl is incredibly difficult but it can be done. It may not sound very romantic but you can't let on how into her you are until you are beyond 100% sure that she feels the same way. If you can develop serious feelings for a girl and not fuck it up and she eventually feels the same way, you will be the happiest guy in the world, isn't that what we're aiming for? Unfortunately sometimes you will have to accept that its not going to work out and that there are plenty more girls out there and this can be the worst thing in the world. Thats just the game mate.

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Dude , You have to accept One-itis is pretty much just an illusion. Many Times I have had this and have been lucky enough to carry them out for awhile .After interacting with them for about 2 weeks I would realize that they weren't that special and probably think they live a boring live just as we think we do.
a person does not get over oneitis until they are fairly sexually and romantically experienced with several partners - that is because at that point a person may realize they are not that different from each other, the romantic victims, and that each of them was not special and unique, and if one is to seduce their romantic victims and have their romantic victim in thier hands they must not develop oneitis

or if you have serious one -itis , i would say settle it and make a serious move . this has happened to me with girls in my class near the end of the semester because i know we are going to have different classes and we won't talk again . so either go for it or not . put it on the line in situations like this.
no girl is that specail

oneitis is when you place unwarranted importance on a woman.

An AFC goes to the bar and falls for any HB that will talk to him, and convince himself she is different from all the other girls and that she is someone special to him.

If you are in a relationship placing importance on a woman is not oneitis. If a girl is resisting sexual advances it is not ALWAYS a direct correlation with the way she feels towards you, but that is the general rule.

If you have to sleep with a girl to want to hang out with her, then you're not hunting down girls worth hanging out with. Hanging out with a girl to get in her pants is oneitis. It puts her in a position of control before there is any real connection.

You should only hang out with a girl if you enjoy hanging out with her. You shouldn't expect any ass out of the situation, and trying for it only puts her in a higher position.

It's important to screen heavily before a date as well. While you should meet a woman's standards for a boyfriend, she should meet yours as well. Begin with the end in mind. Make sure the girl you're pursuing has what you want, and make sure YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT before you decide that "she" is it.


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