For some insane reason I've set up a day 2 with an HB at a local Swing Dancing Club.

Yeah, I've got two left feet and one leg so I feel as if I've set myself of up for failure. I am being proactive about this problem, I take dance lessons in several styles when I have time(which is rarely lately) but I've still got no rhythm.

I've always heard that women relate your dancing skills to your skills in bed. Just curious if there is any truth behind this.

I know this is over and done with...but you should just u tube something...or if you have a hb that knows how to dance...she will love to show you how to dance...bring her over to your house (if you have built enough comfort) cook her dinner and tell her she teaches you...by the end of it all she will be ready to f-close if you so desire...

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"Man is not a prisoner of fate...but only a prisoner of his own mind" FDR

GO SLOW, GO SLOW, GO SLOW....

Did I mention go slow?...If your not good, its ok as long as you don't act like you can dance. Just be honest about the whole situation, if your a quick learner, you'll be fine. But if you can't seem to pick it up, don't be shy to ask her to go slow(tell her you can speed things later on )

and have fun...dont forget thats why your there

I wholeheartedly disagree. 90% of dancing is confidence, even if you have no clue what you're doing. Just have fun

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Both of these are true. I'm not going to try and be humble, I'm a very good dancer and part of a pretty serious crew/group.

I don't use my skills to pickup women because I always wanted to develop my core game, not be propped up by certain talents like magic and dance.

So when it comes to the dancefloor, on a day 2 situation like this I've found that the main thing is you take part - there's nothing worse than a shy partner who's reluctant to take part. Then let your core value rule. If you're no good at dancing, FINE, you're still the man. It's not whether you can dance or not, it's HOW YOU REACT to that lack of skill. If you're insecure about it, gameover, if you brush it aside, laugh about it, talk about it, and keep on being high value by not letting it affect you, you can both have a joke about it and take it to the bedroom.

There are still many easy and fun tricks you can pull out without being able to dance - stuff like brushing up beside her then instantly pulling back and mocking burshing the dust off your shoulders as if she had somehow made you dirty. Use a lot of physical push pull. You don't need much dance skill to do this.

Dancing doesn't get you laid.



Simple as that.

Yes. Dancing is a Vertical Expression for a Horizontal Desire

It helps. I was dancing with my HB8 housemate when we went to a club together, girls came up to her and said "are you a couple? you two dance so well together" (not the first time someone said that btw, she really taught me how to dance ) housemate responded with "no we're housemates" and the girl came up to me and started dancing with me. Which resulted in a SNL, and I didnt even know anything about picking up women back then.

Now, if I was just standing at the bar looking around me, she probably would not have noticed me.

There definitely is a myth that dancing = good in bead, so a girl may judge you based on that, but there is actually no correlation at all. it's just a myth. that said, it won't stop you from getting judged because some girls believe the myth.

The common theme in may of the PU Arts is attitude over skillful execution. While a base level of competency is required in almost any romantic situation. The attitude that you bring with you do the dance club will (and in my experience this has proven to be true) far out-weigh the level of skill with witch you can dance or have sex for that matter.

If she is in good shape and a skilled dancer be willing to take instruction and let go and have fun with her.

Remember if they like you they HELP YOU!

Good luck and cut a rug player

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false false false... I politely disagree. I live in montana where some of the biggest nights downtown are the "wild west" nights. crazy crazy CRAZY swingdancing!!! and the girls LOVE IT!! i'm no cowboy. not in the slightest, but i grew up in a tiny hick town. needless to say, when the country music starts jammin, i can cut a rug like it's no ones business, throwing girls over my shoulders, around my neck, between my legs, flipping them all over the place. not only does it get you noticed by EVERYONE ELSE IN THE BAR/CLUB.... it definitely gets girls coming UP TO YOU, asking you to dance.... and yes.... it gets you crazy laid. all the time

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Wrong, even if you're unaware of it you did something right other than just dancing that got you laid. Rarely do I ever use "female" and "logic" in the same sentence but think about it. "I'm going to fuck this guy because he's a good dancer"

Dose that make much sense to you? You were (although you may even not be aware of it) doing things that increased the attraction and comfort necessary for a snl. I'm sure one of the more experienced members here could explain this. Either you subconsciously did great stuff necessary for an F-close or did what ever AFC dreams of and "got lucky".



BTW, I did end up going to the club with said HB, I had fun (whilst making a fool of myself) . No close THAT night, but later that week I was successful on getting the F-close.

I don't think you can rely solely on your skills on the dance floor to close the deal in fact I did a field report on this exact thing about 2 weeks ago you will need to use your gambits to f-close IMHO:

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Summery: I went to the dance club and it was wall to wall HB's pretty much took center of the dance floor and started breaking a leg. In a short amount of time targets were approaching. I had made a intention to see just how far you can get with a good attitude (exterior signs like a big smile) with out talking at all. I didn't open my mouth hardly at all.


STATS:
13 non-verbal number closes attempted
08 target phone numbers attained
01 kiss close + phone number
04 unsuccessful non-verbal closes – 2 of these wanted to go “talk” somewhere but I didn’t want to compromise my objective for the evening.

Added side note: Its seems that Latin targets really enjoy a man that know how to dance. Hope it helps.

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I don't think dancing is a good thing to do, you may get sweaty.

watch youtube or google how to swing dance.

practice with yourself, and/or a lady friend (or male friend if ur not homophobe:D)

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