I was reading up on disqualifying yourself and it comes up a lot that it's used to no longer be viewed as a "threat" or what have you. But to me, certain disqualifiers (i.e. too bad you're not my type, we could never work out) could be used to enforce/change to a frame of her chasing you. What are your thoughts on that and what are some other things you can say/do to keep her the chaser? Thanks

I think can answer part of the question here. Yes, using a disqualifier like that can be good to push her into the frame that you want her to be in (In this case, putting her in the frame of mind that she is the one who has to seek rapport and inflate her value to you). It's also good for what you originally posted (Making them lower their defenses).

To keep her chasing you, I'm not exactly sure off hand. I think I understand the point of disqualifiers and building rapport though. It's to give you enough time with the girl to set off her other attraction triggers. So if you look at it in that way, she only needs to be in the frame of the chaser long enough for you to trip her other triggers.

I think this is a great question.

Take everything you know about disqualifiers and erase it from your memory for a moment.

Why would you disqualify a girl? To appear less threatening? Not a chance in hell.

I don't mind if every girl (and their boyfriends) in a given venue know that I'm a threat. In the end, it won't matter. There is a seductive quality and inherent value in being a threat. Not to mention, most quality women see through disqualifiers and some of these "pua games" that have a growing presence in social scenes. You're just pissing them off. Don't tell these girls that they aren't your type while you continue to spend your night around them. Instead, it's as if they're at a job interview. Okay, okay, a fun job interview! Point is, at a job interview, the prospective client already knows that there is some interest. She's still going to continue demonstrating value for you. YOU are the person in control. You are the interviewer here. With unspoken communication, you must get across the fact that you have the ability to pick and choose your partners. You are the prize. Most of your value will boil down to your own self perception, which in turn you make the perception of those around you through your actions. Of course, continuing to build your own value is important, but not as important as leaving a social interaction with satisfaction. And with a strong inner game, you can be confident that these women will enjoy your company as well.

Here is an example to illustrate my point.

On Saturday, kanaansea and I were out gaming at a dance club. As an attractive set of women passed us, my wing took the opportunity to compliment his target on her attire.

"Sweetheart, that dress really works for you. It looks great!"

This couldn't be further from a disqualifier. Not only did he add to her value, but he let her know that he was interested. A huge mistake? Not at all. We continued walking, giving out the compliment in stride, and were later approached by this set. By making such a bold compliment, kanaansea showed this women that not only would he be honest and candid with her (women value this, trust me), but he also showed that it didn't matter to him whether she knew he was attracted or not. His disregard for these elements of "game" gave him silent value in that he was unafraid and unphased by her reaction or her own thoughts. He was in control of the situation and demonstrated a confidence that he could achieve his desired results no matter what he said. And even though he was attracted, it hadn't been enough to stop us from moving on through the club. He showed these women that it took more than a great outfit to get our full attention, prompting them to find us later and display value for us.

Now, remember disqualifiers again. Sure, they have a time and a place. More often than not, however, they are not necessary. The point of this post is simply to get you to start thinking about these concepts. Take the things you learn from game, then take a step back and look at them from another perspective. This will truly help you move on to the next level in your social dynamics.