Something just occurred to me. Advice along the lines of "Just go out and fuck 10 girls, then you'll feel better," is pure shit. Some of us are really hurting ourselves with this mindset. Think about it. When an insecure girl gets dumped, what does she do? She fucks any guy that tells her she's pretty until one sticks. Why? Sexistly speaking, girls are very emotional and commonly overwhelmed with emotion. Instead of "dealing" with a negative emotion, they seek out ways to ignore it. They seek validation from the opposite sex until the emotion passes (which it ALWAYS does).

As a man, don't you think you owe it to yourself to be able survive an emotion? Emotions can't hurt you, it's you intellectualizing it that will fuck you up. Rejection sucks, it feels bad, but that's it. Rejection doesn't mean you're worthless, it doesn't mean you have to go through women like a box of Kleenex to prove you're worthwhile. Do you really want to have to depend on others to get you through bad feelings? If you can't lead yourself through your own shit feelings, how are you going to be strong enough for a woman? I've seen naturals get shut down and then move on to the next opportunity. They don't do it to soothe themselves or make the rejector jealous. They do it because they don't let their shitty feelings dictate what they should do or spoil their night. Feel your damn feelings, men! And keep living your lives despite them.

Hope that helps somebody. I know it makes me stronger than my peers.

GFTOW is for oneitis so that you don't see her as the 'only girl' and are able to be effective when creating attraction/escalating with her.

What you're describing is fucking girls for self-validation, which isn't good, but at the same time - too many people do it. Hell, it even seems like you're advocating willowing in self pity until the emotion subsides or falls into the background... because you've gone out, and you may not have fucked another girl, but you're socialising.

The advice may not be the best, but at the same time - it's not the worst. It's one that skips out the middle step of self-pitying and feeling shit, and just getting straight back out there. If people fuck ten girls, good on them, but if they don't, they'll still see some improvement in their happiness because they're out, socialising, maintaining the physiology that they had while they were happy.

Physiology <-> State <-> Behaviour.

I wasn't being clear. This is what screws people up. You can still go out and have a good time while feeling like shit. This is obvious because several guys go out, party, have fun, and screw whatever they can get to try to get over their oneitis (and guess what? It's still there when they're done until the feeling resolves itself). I in no way advocate staring at your walls, dodging friends, and calling into work to sulk. That's what I mean when I say an emotion doesn't have to dictate what you choose to do. You can find out your girlfriend cheated on you and still go to a party that same night and be the life of the party and enjoy yourself. Your actions float on top of your emotions, but you shouldn't neglect your emotions or you'll always be a man-child like Mystery or something and flip out when you're forced to confront them eventually. At some point, you should take a little time and feel the hurt and realize that if you don't attach anything to it, it's just an insubstantial feeling; a natural part of life like taking a shit.

I advocate oneitis, I think it's a partial realization that not ALL women are disposable and there's a woman potentially worthy of you. Without that, we are womanizers trapped in a hollow cycle. On the same token, you don't have to act out your oneitis, just like you don't have to act out your misery or anger. Feelings and action are separate. I get what you mean about GFTOW for oneitis, that makes some sense, but's it's commonly prescribed for everything that makes you feel bad/rejected.