So i finally lost my virginity today, but im not even happy, i just feel like i dont care. I cant even remember much of the sex. And i had problem getting hard it was quite embarassing, we could only have sex for like 5 min and i wasnt even fully hard then. I didnt feel comfortable. I wasnt that turned on either, dont know why, shes quite hot. I have to ad that im a heavy masturbater to porn, maybe that fucked me up. Im going to stop doing that.

Anyone can help me?

Get back in there ! Its better the following times.

You probably were anxious or may have built up sex in your head to be something else and hence the disappointment.

It gets better the next time. Good Luck

dont overthink... it was your first time, thats normal... your just nervous.... next time will go much mor smoothly as u have no "pressure"

I never placed a lot of stake on my first time. Odds are, one day you will get married, and have sex thousands and thousands of times throughout your lifetime. When you consider that, does your first time really matter?

No one is really a virgin life fucks us all.

What helps me get harder is when I think about sex, I only think about sexy things with that girl and imagine all the details in what I want to say and do to her as well as what she would like me to do to her. Not masturbating will help too because then that will mean that she will be your only sexual release.

Damn it now I'm horny

Heavy porn will definitely screw up your sex drive. Ditch the porn, focus on the real thing. In a few weeks your body and mind will "reset" and you'll find that your sex life will get much better.

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You shoulda told her: "Baby, you're just not hot enough" LOOOLOLOLLL

Stuff like that happens sometimes. It happened to be you first time. Don't think about it.

Don't stress about it, the same thing has happened to me once. My problem was I wanked twice that morning. Being Blunt. Lefty king has the right idea, Oh and if it will boost your ego to know, when I lost my virginity it barely lasted a minute I was that excited, I tried to pretend from there but eventually my body got the best of me. If you just don't focus on the fact your having sex then you could go for hours.

Feel any better?

Your going to orgasm, period. try to concentrate on her, what she wants, what she needs, and most importantly how you can, and will be the means of reaching those needs. I findd that when i'm more concerned with her ecstasy I last quite a bit longer.

The girl was hot you said, but was she sexy? There is a difference I would take a sexually experienced hb7-8 over a hb10 that just lays there any day. Until I can teach the hb10 what to do that is.

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Thanks for responses.

I dont know guys.. i didnt feel horny at all.. matter of fact ive almost never felt horny around her.. Maybe im just unexperienced. I mean, this is like the second girl ive kissed in my lifetime.. And i dont feel comfortable either. I have a problem relaxing and just enjoying the moment. Im to much in my head or something, I cant even remember much of the sex with her, or even the time i spent with her at all.

Hmm... did you two do the deed in a comfortable place? I remember having a major problem getting an erection when trying to fuck a girl in a preschool bathroom. She was a teachers aid and I visited her for lunch. I simply couldn't keep it up thinking some little 3 year old snot nosed kid was going to walk in and be traumatized. But that wasn't my first time, my first time I felt like my cock was going to explode because it was so damn hard. Well just try to hit her up again and see if the same shit happens. If it does than maybe there is a problem otherwise you were probably just nervous.

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Yeah we had sex on a comfortable place.. I dont know man i just find that i get 100 times harder from watching porn than the real deal.

But i have to say i have a very strange mindset about sex which i am trying to change now.. Like that its disgusting for me to get hard when thinking bout girls n stuff like that, dont know where ive gotten it from but i hate it and im trying to change that now.. Im also a bit shy, so theres alot i have to work on

I disagree... porn is very educational

but the real thing is not only visual, my first time sucked too, the thing is you think too much, and you just want to stick it in and cum and be happy,

foreplay is something that is important both for the female AND the male, touching, playing making out...

and its very important to just let go, be free, and enjoy the moment not the outcome (don't just thrust to cum, enjoy the process)

it's OK, like pua or anything else having sex is a skill that improves and becomes more enjoyable with time..

good luck

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i dont know i just feel that i will have big problems with this dunno why though

guys..... i cant even get a normal hard on any more?? wtf is happening? I try to think of sexy things or anything but my dick cant even get semi-hard.. i feel like im missing porn, shit..