OK. So for the last 18 months i have been practising pick up. And i thought that this was the answer to my happiness. All of the time i had the kind of girl that i would have had trouble gaming, even with the skillset i have now. She is a 10, in every way. The hottest girl i have probably seen in the city i am in. But i couldnt let go of my ego. I thought that pick up would give me the validation i craved and that i would be happy with a different girl every night......wrong!!!!
I never cheated but i neglected her terribly. I wasnt there emotionally and was mainly interested in her , only when i wasnt gaming or wanted sex. And she got a feel for this.

For the last 6 weeks she avoided seeing me, and i acted like a dick saying i was going to get with other women because she wouldnt see me. Instead of thinking WHY she wouldnt see me, and recognising my fault in all of this. We were still together though, and up until last week were an item.

By the time i did realise , it was too late. A week before we broke up, we were talking about spending time together, going away etc, but although i know she wants this, her friends, her mum, are all pushing her brain somewhere else.

I have been with a lot of women, and i have NEVER felt like this about any of them.
We met up and she broke it off with me. She still loves me, but her brain wont let her be with me , for i guess , fear of getting hurt.

I have learnt a lot. I have learnt that fucking hundreds of women wont bring happiness. That you have to give in a relationship. ITs not all about YOU. This girl was infatuated with me, completely in love, and its still there, but she wont go back there, she wont let herself do it.

So how, can i make her understand this is a good idea? I am a different person. PUA is all about self development, and learning from mistakes.
I have read that it is best to blank them for 30 days, so that they miss you?????
We dont have each other on facebook but she has my friends on there, and could see pics of me , if that would help? She mentioned she is going to start going to a club in town called *****. I already go there and i knew she wasnt going, so i went tonight. It is full of douchebags. Not one person i would be anywhere near jealous about.
Im a high value male in every respect, and i think one walk around that place and she will be wondering why she didnt give me and her a proper chance.

I understand that i should not be needy. But should i leave it for her completely?
Or stay friends. Be non neeedy, just send the odd text as though she is in the friend zone, and keep her attraction up. Or will it really work if i leave her completely alone. It seems like a massive gamble. She text me after we broke up wishing me well, and i havent text back.

I took her off my msn , and i was going to add her back, but i have just found out that she has deleted me as well!

Please dont judge the situation, i would really appreciate some practical advice on getting her back, making her attracted again, and breaking down the barriers that she has put up.

Thanks

Appologise and then go straight back into Cat string or what ever attraction theory you like to use

Well we met up about a week ago and i took responsibility and took the break up like a man, but didnt push trying to get her back, as i know this doesnt work.
But there must be SOMETHING that works?
Cat string? Ill look into it.
Any other ideas? Im just wary of the freeze out being a good idea

Thanks

Just give it time. Maybe send a text saying "Ok I'm here if you want to try and sort things out at some point in future, no pressure" . After that you stop all contact and give it two weeks without any attempt to do anything.

If she replies then great, keep things nice and relaxed and try to talk just normally without emotion.

If not then give a call after 2 weeks to see how she is doing. Do not mention about the relationship just talk normally about funny stuff. If the call goes well maybe ask to meet up. If not just hang up and try again a few days later. Do not force anything and keep things short and sweet.

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Thanks bro. You are right and my apologies if this all comes from a needy place. Its better i let it loose on here than turning up at anyones door with flowers lol.

We met up last week. She was cold and reserved. She first said she was over it and didn't love me. Then she said she did love me. Shes pretty confused but i think this is the point now where she has had enough of men altogether. She said she wanted to sleep with me but couldn't because she'd start having feelings.

So thanks for the advice, i just wanted to know if i should text her at all from here, or leave it for 2 weeks.
As i said, i accepted the break up. I asked her if it was over, she said it was, and i didnt push it. She then text me after we met up saying good luck with everything and i havent replied. That was nearly a week ago now.

I saw her best friend out last night who saw me having a good time etc.
Should i text her anything at the moment, or just leave it a few weeks?

Thanks loads guys

I would say leave it because you dont want to show that your having a good time to show some other person that you are.

Its only my thought on it though

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Yea, you are right. Im going away next week with a friend who she randomly has on her facebook. Is it worth having a couple of pics up, of me being busy or around female friends that she would look at.
Or is there a chance that might be see through.
I think a lot of people have been in this situation and iv worked out the best thing is to do the opposite of what you should do! But there is always the gamble of her becoming even less interested as time goes on.

No contact + move one and improve inner and outer game = more chance of us getting back together or myself being happy normally