Not sure if this counts as an FR, but I just wanted to share an experience with all of you on here.

For the past 2 months at school I've been flirting with this one HB8. She's cute, blonde, a little bubbly, and independent. Major IOI's were being thrown out like her grabbing and stroking my hand, inviting me to visit her in her hometown, etc. Winter break came along and we both went back to our hometowns. Time to time we started playing text games and eventually we talked on the phone. Just my usual laid-back c&f I was giving her and she was enjoying it.

But recently she came to me about one of her problems. I asked her why she was sad and she explained to me over break another guy stayed at her place for a night where they kissed and he told her that he wanted her to be his girlfriend A couple days afterwards they got into an argument and he cut her off.

Immediately I was starting to feel uneasy when she came to me about one of her emotional problems, especially when she's crying and such. You don't hear much about PUAs having HBs come to them about their problems...unless they see him as a friend. Don't get me wrong...I'm not an asshole when it comes to things like these. I am an empathetic person and I do care about how others feel. But in my head I was thinking "what's going on? Is this a shit test? Should I just push her aside? Or should I just give up on sarging her and be a genuine friend?"

I made the decision. If it was AFC of me then okay I guess. I don't want to be an unempathetic asshole like how my father was. I talked to her on a genuine level and listened to her. I sacrificed my chances of laying her. Now I'm just on a friend level and I feel it was the right thing to do. I was starting to get into her. Maybe it was my fault for becoming emotionally attached. I don't know...I'm just bummed out about it, that's all.

It's very interesting how PU works. In the comfort phase of interaction we're left with two paths. If any of you are fans of Robert Frost then you get my picture: two roads diverging into the woods. We can either become friends with them and keep them for the rest of our lives, or we can seduce them and gamble with our chances.

So that's my FR right there. It's up to YOU to decide where you want to go with your relationships. The whole drama of "oh I like that person" seems very immaturish and high school to me so I don't want to think about it as much. I'd like to hear from your experiences since a lot of you are much older. How do you handle situations like this?

-Erison