Heya guys,

i was meeting a girl (18 years old virgin) for the last couple of months, we know each other from the Childhood, but we never really hanged around, since im 6 years older.

But now that she is grown, it turned out to be quiet fun to hang around with her.

So after a couple of meetings, where we talked about old times(Rapport) i started to game that girl. I felt sexually attracted and made sure to show it to the girl and i knew that girl wanted me too. But something felt strange with her.. every time i have aroused her, she switches into some kind of defense mode and blocks my touches (dont bother, im not a needy guy and know how to handle myself) and moves away from me. I take 2 steps back then and let her come back to me, or wait a few and make her come back at me.

The girl has some family issues, she raised up without a father and her brother is a drug addict. she definatly has a LowDrive, or atleast pretends one or doesnt feel well when she gets aroused.

Now to the actual Problem:

Like said we were meeting the last couple of months and there has been like a week where we have seen each other every day. I knew she was a virgin, but that wasnt bothering me escalating. Throughout every meeting i was climbing on the escalation ladder, until we ended up one day petting(with all clothes on). She was laying on my bed and i could feel her body getting aroused more and more and i tried to escalate even more. She was pretending to be asleep. But she was definatly not.

So after petting and me trying to escalate even further, she pretends to "wake up" and says something like

HB: "I was sleeping deeply"

But as if that wasnt enough, she also wanted to go home. I just once offered her to stay at my place, but she wanted to go,.. so i let her without further discussion.

The Day after i gave her a call, since i was thinking about a possible buyers remorse and tried to remain in the game. On the Phone she felt cold, but i didnt wanted to accept her frame. Since she is unexpirienced, i will have to lead her through this.

After that i let a couple of days pass and call her again to meet up. But she didnt have "time" of course and was playing games with me now.
I didnt make any further tries to meet with her until she called me again, but i just got the "no time" answer.

This was going like 3 weeks until i decided to freeze that girl out for a while.
Only a few days after i started to freeze her, she started to get in contact with me every day and trying to meet up, but this time i didnt have "time" to meet.

Of course i was always doing my phone game and have the conversation end for both in a good mood.

So last sunday, she called me again and told me something that i have to admit irritated me.

HB: What are you up to ?
Tony: im meeting with someone..
HB: My Boyfriend let me down today..
HB: becuase i let him down yesterday.
Tony: what goes around, comes around.

I didnt let her know that it irritated me, i just switched the topic and didnt talk about him, she was talking some nonesense after she told me about her boyfriend and i was ending the conversation since i had someone to meet.

Whatever is going on here, i can not find the mistake in my game. For me it feels like that girl cannot enjoy harmony and can not enjoy beeing sexual aroused or gets afraid when she gets aroused. Id like to close this topic for me, but its nagging me.

Before the 3 weeks in where she was playing with me and giving me "no time" answers, she hooked up with some other guy she never even mentioned before.

I kind of feel like kicked in the nuts and im not aware of the situation anymore.

Share your thoughts guys

I would see it in a different light.

She was aroused by you, wanted you, but had a thing going with that other guy and coudn't do anything with you because she didn't fell it was right. Now they have broken up, and she has contacted you, making you know she's available. She is showing interest in you If you ask me.

Don't act to cocky and vengfull trying to apear 'busy' when you are not. Don't push too much without pulling some. Just see her again and escalate again.

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of course that could be possible, but they have not broken up.

He didnt want to see her, because she didnt meet up with him the day before. therefore she gave me a call and wanted to meet me, but i already had a meeting for that day.

Ever since we havent heard from each other and tbh i dont want to get more involved into this and get another kick in the nuts. like said im not really aware of the situation, so if i do any further steps i have to get an overview of the situation atleast.

From her last call, she still seems to be interested in meeting me, this could by now look diffrent of course..

i guess i need to give her a call, meet her and escalate like you said, but my head is not ready for that girl right now..

Update

quite some time passed and i could finally relax my head..
I received a call from her, made my PhoneGame and made up a meeting for the weekend.. she wanted to meet the same day she called, but i already had stuff to do so i told her on the weekend..

the day after the call, she calls me in the morning and wants to join me, because her boss sent her home from work..

i was sleeping at that time but i still let her come to my place.. i was tired but still able to game, so i tried to go KINO on her but she blocked it, i went 2 steps back and worked on attraction and rapport and again KINO, again blocked..

Until i dont felt like escalation or attracting anymore and told her, i better have kept sleeping.

So this was Last Friday.. she went wherever she went and ive gone my way..
On Sunday we are supposed to meet up, i was at some Autoshow when she called me and reminded me that we have to meet up today (if she hasnt called, i would have forgotten) anways so on sunday we meet again.. im in a very good state and game here like never before, she was amazingly attracted and was getting aroused.. i could see her inner fight... i could see her fight against herself..

I then told her, look nothing is inbetween us, relax.. and tried to escalate, this time she wasnt as blocky as on friday, i could touch her, but i have seen her beeing afraid of my near, like she is afraid of what is going to happen, as if she had no controll over it as soon as she comes to close..

Whatever her issues is, i fired out my best game, i attracted her like i never attracted a girl before, i made her horny and all i expect from her is to let me do my thing

But no, she was like playing push/pull with me, everytime i see her getting horny, it makes me horny, and it kills me at the same time, since she blocks..

even freezing her out doesnt help it, she just refuses every KINO or atleast doesnt let me do it long enough to get to the next step of escalation..

every since last Sunday we havent heard from each other, im kind of confused again tbh.. i showed her what i wanted from her, i know she wants me to, but refuses any kind of escalation...

I dont feel like calling her, as i showed her what i wanted, and dont feel like running for this girl.. if she is ready, she has my number and could call me, otherwise i doubt that ill give her a call anytime soon..

Tell me your thoughts on this, and maybe a diffrent perspective or someone with such expirience may put his light on me..