HEllo Lads, and Lasses.
I recently read a post by Steve Slik, about how to go about answering when asked by women about his divorce.

so on a slightly lesser scale than divorce, this is something that I've been experimenting with this year,

whenever i meet a gyal, like clockwork the " why are you single" which then is followed by "how did u n your ex break up" (or words to the effect of!) subject/topic will come into conversation.

and for ages i've just been making a joke out of it by saying something like "oh i'm high maintenance" or "i duno" lol ......

both answers make it look like im trying to avoid the question or the subject totally, which is bad and has always worked out negatively .... sometimes it hasnt affected me K closing the gyal, but it has always been a little speed bump that i'd rather didnt happen.

So.... after havin a couple of short relationships with a few nuttahs this year the perfect answer hit me like a slap in the face while i'd isolated this HB8 (ish .... nah she was hot lol) and it goes a little bit like this

Me; blah blah blah
HER; blah blah, wow you're so nice, why are you single?
Me; well why are you single hhmmmmmm?? lol

we laugh

Her; i duno i just am, i'm looking for Mr. Right
Me; Goodluck with that one, i think you'll be waiting a while

notice how i'm skirting the issue very slightly, just to see how much she really wants to know, its always important to never be too keen to give them what the want, make them work for it a lil bit

Her; so come on then, when was your last gf??
Me; a couple of months ago, so pretty recent.
Her; oh my god i'm sorry
Me; no its ok, i was the one who broke it off with her
Her; what heppened?
Me; Well i dont really know, the last couple of gf's i've had have been complete disasters. I just seem to attract the weird ones, i must be jynxed

(i give her a sarcastic/cheeky look as i say that part, and they always giggle and give you a playful punch on the arm..... which is a good sign)
and then i carry on to say ......

When i first met my ex, and the one before her actually, they were everything that i was looking for in a girl... she was beautiful, smart, independent, fiesty... etc etc

(but dont go on for too long just pick a few that include personality as well as looks ALSO while i'm reeling off these characteristics i'm gesturing my hands in her direction, so that it looks like i'm recognising those same characteristics in her without making it obvious)

i then continue to say..

so at first it seemed great, but before long they started to display very needy, possessive behaviour, even a little bit of immaturity .... i tried my best to help her, and make it work doing or saying everything and anything that i could think of in order to help her through her insecurities, but it just got to the point where i thought, its just not going to work. There comes a point where you have to look after number 1 dont you?

She will nod or agree, hanging on your every word

So from now on, especially after the last gf, i've decided that i'm not going to commit to a relationship with any girl until i've taken the time to get to know them, like really really get to know them.

Her; omg thats so sweet .... (or words to the effect of)

obviously i'm biased because this is my routine (there are probably others similar but i actually thought this one up on my own)

Firstly there is the cheeky "oh i seem to just be attracting the weird ones" whilst nodding or hinting towards her directions. It just shows a bit of humour, in my experience, laughter is the key.. but use humour in moderation, you dont want to be the clown who entertains the set.

Secondly is naming the qualities that you recognised in your ex, and using your hands, arms and eye contact your giving the impression that your noticing those in her. The beauty of this is that your showing a little bit of interest in her without making it obvious, she will think "wow he's just let it slip that he likes me but he dont know that i know hehehe" ........... or so she thinks.

Thirdly showing how you tried all you could to save the relationship before breaking up with her. This shows that you appear to not be afraid of commitment (even if you are or are not looking for a girlfriend, I'm certainly not, but it is still an attractive quality that they look for, even if they're not looking for a boyfriend, they still like to know that they're not investing all this time with a complete bastard)
Also it show that you've been considerate to you're ex's feelings when she's going out of her head and doing your f**king nut in!
This combined with the 2nd (cheeky "i must attract the weird ones constitutes a pretty powerful NEG, at first your showing her that she possesses the qualities your looking for, and then all of a sudden you're bursting her bubble by saying that she "aint all that" cus she will more than likely turn to mush the more time you spend with her)
So for this reason they will start to validate themselves, which is the whole purpose of a NEG

And finally, by saying that you will no longer get romantically involved with a bird until you've taken the time to really get to know them, you are "disqualifying yourself as a potential suitor" (Mystery Method - you less of a threat this way, they can let their guard down)

major point, you dont want to come across as a broken man, talk about the break up positively, even tell them that you and your ex are still friends.

FEEDBACK ON THIS WOULD BE GOOD LADS !!
an FEMALE OPINION would be even better.
I've tried it out quite a few times and so far so good, its working a hell of a lot better than avoiding the issue.

ONE LOVE and HAPPY HUNTING
garagefan!

Excellent way to put it. This is very much like what actually happened to me, except with a few more "Jeremy Kyle" type moments. I can deffo see this working. Im gonna use this as a template and see how I can make it my own.

Will post back when I have done something and positively tested it.

Many thanks garagefan

I just went through this a few days ago:
HER: Why have you been single so long?
ME: I'm moving to Cali when i get my degree next year and it's been my life dream to move there, so I don't want to risk jeopardizing that by being emotionally attached to a girl, I'm open to the possibility but haven't found a girl worth jeopardizing that yet.
HER: OMG that's so sweet, you would actually stay for a girl?
ME: If she's that cool absolutely (LIE but i'm not moral so fuck it) I would but she better be awesome, i'm talking gourmet chef and has to fuck so good you'd think she invented it, which begs the question, think you are up to the challenge of trying to keep me here?

F closed

LMAO

ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT QUOTE M8, i shall definitely be using this one!

ONE LOVE n HAPPY HUNTING !!
garagefan

If a HB asks me why im single i usually just tell them its because Im picky. which is partly true. I think it acts as a DHV and you can even go into a routine on what they/you like in a girl/guy if you are far enough along in a conversation on that and use it to make them qualify themselves for you.

Funny, I have never actually been confronted with this question. However, if so I would tell them the truth; I have yet to find someone capable of keeping up with me. The way I see it, everyday is just another chance to do something that I will never forget, I need them to see that too.

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yeh possibly Rapture,

but the whole point of that routine is to avoid the witty one line comebacks (like yours) that make it look like you're avoiding the subject.

She might not want to see the whole truth, but she does want to see it - HITCH

Your comeback is a bold statement which in the long run could possibly leave yourself open to many unanswered calls and texts because you couldnt live up to the hype of "oh no1 can keep up with me"

ONE LOVE n HAPPY HUNTING
garagefan

Girls ask this question because they want to rule out players and defectives. Screening like this is major ioi. They won't ask you this unless they think you're something different.

Good coverage on all points. I generally would just hit on her though. QUALIFY. I know you qualified in your routine but then you did bring up the relationship factor, which could be made out like you're JUST looking for a relationship here. She's opening herself up for you to hit on her here.

Tell her you're single because you wanted to be available for her. (something to that extent) Up the sexual level of the conversation with your answer here. Whether or not the girl is a slut, she's going to SAY she's a good girl, and could use that as an excuse to blow you off, so she can lead you on. The relationship talk will open you up to be lead on.

Bring up the sex level of the conversation, and hit on her. Closing her will make her want you even more whether she's that girl or not. Then you can start screening her for the things you actually want in a girl.

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genius!!! good stuff there master pua! i really like the disqualification part where you mention not being in a relationship until you know the girl, and the DHV by showing you have emotions/morals is really good as well its bound to lead to some sort of close.

I'm gonna try this one out. I like it.

One time I got asked this and it was about most money thing that's happened to me. I was meeting some hot friends of female friend and one of them asked me "Why I you single? I can't believe it" and my friend replied, for me, "Cause he's so damn picky!" She said it like she was a little angry.

I just smiled and watched the games begin. I've never had so many women try and qualify themselves to me in one night in my life. Unfortunately, it turns out I was too picky, cause later that night I got bored and decided to call it an early night (something I've made myself stop doing because it's a bad habit to have - every time I'd call it an early night, something amazing would happen an hour or two after I left).

This is great. With me it normally goes like this:
HER: "So why are you single?"
ME: "Well because I'm very picky, and when I find a girl I like I have to know her well before commiting to her. I think people rush into relationships just for the sake of having someone to be with, which is fucking stupid"

She normally then either goes:
"Yeah I'm exactly the same, that's how I see it"
"It's good to find someone who sees it as I do"
"I never looked at it like that, that's a good way of putting it"
Sometimes they're really attracted, or it intimidates them a little because they say "Oh well if you're the picky type you're gonna be disappointed" (Or maybe they're just using a false disqualifier and playing me back? )

Whatever they say, I go into how there are millions of people to meet yet, and that it's just stupid to commit yourself to the best available person at the time rather than waiting, being more picky and getting with someone because you want them and because they're perfect for you. They always agree. Then it leads on into a conversation about what we want in a girl/guy etc.
Anyway yours sounds cooler I think, so I'm gonna try that next time