I just needed to spill out some thoughts here in the lounge.

For the past month I have been in an open relationship with a very pretty blonde, it has been a great month, we have fun together, the sex is good and I like her friends.
However, I know that this relationship would never work in the long run, we are too different, and instead of listing all the reasons why it would never work as a long term relationship, just take my word for it!

But today I got the inevitable question from her, "Do you want to be in a committed exclusive relationship with me?"

I took a deep breath and said "No", I explained to her that I don't want to rush in to anything and that I feel I don't know her enough yet, I told her that I would like to continue seeing her but not as her exclusive boyfriend.
I said something I can't quite remember about how I was in a position where I could not be someones boyfriend without letting her down. The conversation was long, we talked about this for about an hour, but I made my message clear without hurting her feelings.

The truth is that I'm not ready to sacrifice for her, I'm not ready to sacrifice relationships that I have with other girls, I'm not ready to give up pick up, I'm not ready to stop sleeping with other girls.
In other words, if I would have said yes to her, I would have ended up cheating on her and she would be hurt.

The result of our conversation was that we will continue dating, we will take one step back, see each other a little less and become a little more detached.
I know that I risk losing her this way, because if she meets someone else, someone that can actually give her what she wants, I have to be unselfish and let her go, because this is doing the right thing!

I came to the chat today to get reassurance from other guys that I did the right thing, and the replies I got were great and I have to say 'thank you' to those guys!

To risk letting a hot girl with a fun personality go is a very hard thing to do, but if I would have committed to her it would have been extremely selfish. I am not in love with her, I don't see a future with her, I would just stay with her for my own convenience which would be a horrible thing to do.
This way I can keep hanging out with her but I'm giving her the opportunity to meet someone who will actually want to be in a long term relationship with her and that can give her what she really deserves. All I'm offering is a good time, fun parties and sex, and as long as that is all she wants, she can keep seeing me but with no strings attached, this way no feelings are hurt.

Like I mentioned before, this was a hard decision to make for me, but I know I made the right choice!
I won't feel guilty, she won't be hurt!
So to you guys who are reading this, please keep this in mind. Always consider her feeling, don't be selfish! But also, consider your own feelings, don't just become someones boyfriend just because she wants it, that is not fair to you or her!

I heard that Johnny Soporno would only date girls who were also seeing other guys, and that makes a lot of sense to me! I have a few other girlfriends, but I make sure that they know that I'm not seeing them exclusively and they don't have to see me exclusively, in my book; cheating is not ok!
One day I will retire as a PUA and settle for one woman! But that day is not today!

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I just had to make a similar choice a few hours ago - it was hard too, but I, like you, did the right thing. It wouldn't be so bad if she was seeing so guys but she isn't. It was hard to tell her but she took it very well. I don't even think she is thatbotheredwhich is great!

Good post Sly.

I can see that you are a man with a good heart. I wish i would of done the same thing as you did here when i was in a relationship with my ex- GF. Well... lesson learned...
I can only admire the way you manage to combine your morals and values into this PUA thing.
Keep it up!

PS. I will come back to the chat as soon as my exam is over

[ Johnny B ]

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Props there Slywalker. It's easy to lie to others, almost as easy as lying to yourself. Glad to know you snooped down to neither. Ethics and morals can go a long way.

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Have just had to do the same thing. Had a LTR that was non exclusive and i knew she wanted a full relationship. Its hard because i liked the girl and she was a 10.
But unless you are completely ready to settle down , its not the right thing to do.

Unfortunately mine has gone completely mental and wont speak to me, so i dont get her as a friend, but its deffs the right thing to do.

I'm in a oLTR with a HB10 for a 8 months now. (oLTR - one way LTR)
I can sleep with other chicks and she cant with other guys.

It's pretty simple to get and sustain this relationship actually.

You just have to be VERY HIGH value male. Would a chick be in a oLTR with a Brad Pitt? Of course she would. Would she be in a oLTR with Axl Rose? Of course she would.

So all you have to do is to stop reading this PUA shit and get your life handeled so that you're high value male.
Start working out.
Start building your life.
Start making more money.
Start making more friends, more girl friends, more connections,...

Be the fucking larger than life.

A HB10 sure wont be in this kind of relationship with some dude who can just pickup chicks.

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You don't think that a oLTR is pretty unfair? Did you think of her at all or just yourself? Fair play she agreed but still.

Of course it's fair.
I honestly told her that I cant be with her in a LTR because I want to practice game. ahahahahahaha

I never lied to her, I never cheated on her, I respected her... so if she wants to be in this kind of relationship with me she can.
It's her choice. She can always tell me to fuck off if she doesnt want to be in this kind of relationship.
But the reasons she's still with me are because I'm brutaly honest with her, I trust her, I'm never jealous, I respect her, I treat her like a diamond with a badboy touch and I fuck her like crazy ahahahahahahahahaha (besides my other nongame related DHV's)
And yes awesome spectacular sex has to do A LOT with keeping a girl.

Haha I respected her and been honest with her probably more than any other guy she was with.


It's all about value. Start adding value to your life.

No girl rejects Brad Pitt.
No girl cheats on Brad Pitt.

So if you want a 10 be a fucking 10!!! Act like a 10, have lifestyle of a 10, look like a 10, have inner game of a 10,...

Hobbit: Would a 10 of a guy kiss a guy to get a chick? ahahahahahaha I dont think so...

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Yeah you're right. That was a dumb question by me actually. Look after yourself first but still be fair and clear.

Slywalker, you definitely made the right decision. I made a similar decision about a month ago, and it has worked out great. We are both openly seeing other people, but we still hang out like once or twice a week, have great sex, and have an awesome time hanging out.
It will really suck when she eventually finds someone she wants to be exclusive with and throws me to the curb, but being exclusive with her and ending up in an unhappy relationship 6 mths to a year from now would suck 10x worse.