Shes 17 and im 22 , So basically I went out with her for 4 months but I never said to or established what are relationship status was. She is probably the shyest girl I've ever met . I've pretty much done everything to her without having sex and she hasn't gave me anything an the sexual department. Ok so the other night I did my deed on her and she called me and said she couldn't handle the feelings she was having for me and she was scared to have sex and felt pressured, which she never had stated to me.Then she went on to say that shes not ready for a relationship with me and needs to concentrate on school. Anyone been with a V and any advice on how to land her back. Shes texted me once in 3 days and just said hey and I said nothing back also.

"Ok so the other night I did my deed on her and she called me and said she couldn't handle the feelings she was having for me and she was scared to have sex and felt pressured, which she never had stated to me.Then she went on to say that shes not ready for a relationship with me and needs to concentrate on school."

Why don't you just leave her alone? Why should she have sex with you? There are plenty of other women out there!!! Do you have some fixation on virgins? Or do you have feelings for her in general?

If you don't have a fixation on virgins - just find another girl - she'll be more experienced and more likely to be confident than this one.

Another thing - I'm about the same age as you are. What are you doing going out with a 17 year old? :/ Some guys might think this is amazing, but for a lot of women (hey it's important what we think becuase it's us you want to have sex with right?).....it looks bad - like it looks like you can't get anyone your own age - not good for your sexual rep. is it? :/

I don't think 20 years of age difference is a big deal even - but she's 17 years old....it's making you look like you might be a bit of a pervert :/

Go for someone closer to your own age and as I said - they might be more experienced. Let her concentrate on school.

You playing a dangerous game - can you imagine if she had sex with you and shock horror she regreted it?! Can you imagine the possible conversation she might have with someone else. It could run something like this -

"Well I really liked him, but one night I just felt so pressured. He was making all the moves, but I didn't really want to. I think I said no at point but I don't think he heard me....he just carried on and I just wanted it to stop".......

!!!!!!!!

This could be you. Obviously your side of the story might be completly different, but can you imagine what this would sound like to a protective male figure in her life....I would be running already!!

I'd give her some time. Make her miss you. The sexual tention was there but can be very difficult for a girl like that. Seems that you need to work on comfort building, but don't do it too much or you'll be in the LJBFZ, also make her more attracted to you.

Seems that comfort is in the way of getting laid, and the attraction needs to be more in order to establish a relationship. If this is what you want anyway...

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Hi, I need your female opinion on this...

Thanks for the advice . For some reason I really like this girl, she has the whole innocent thing that makes me so attracted to her. I think I might have screwed it up though

My girlfriend and also one of my ex's were virgins too, its a big step for a girl to lose her virginity and u need to understand that! If she says let her be as she is pressured for sex, and she wants to focus on school!
Usually girls fall in love with the person who took their virginity easier! I know cuz I experienced it. So do you want her to feel that way for you and if u break up after a short time, she feels used and betrayed? I told my girlfriend right before I had sex with her for her first time, I told her "are you sure about this?" and made her understand our relationship is NOT going to last for ever!
You join the PUA community to gain confidence and be more desirable for girls, and make the want every piece of you, not to try and play games on 17 yro virgins who clearly are not comfortable with losing their virginity at this time of their life!

Well said.

Alright well the first thing I feel I need to address is the difference in age. While girls do mature much faster then men do you have to realize that 5 years is a large difference. So you are more then likely more mature then this girl. Next you have to realize that she is a virgin and its going to be much harder to get a virgin into bed then it would be with a non virgin. A good rule of thumb is the more guys a girl has slept with the the higher the likely hood of her sleeping with you is. This girl seems like she has some issues with trust which is fine but you shouldn't invest to much time or effort into her as it seems your fighting a losing battle. I would move on and find myself a girl closer to my age. I hope this helped

Alias

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Thanks, Alias.

Yea I realy dont have a thing for virgins but I really like this one .I'm best freinds with her sister's boyfriend and her sister so Its kind of hard not to think about her.