i've realised that conquesting random girls every week isn't fulfilling. recently, i've been channeling an old flame that i genuinely like. in contrast, to the past, our interactions seem tame, i wanna start things slow and get her to chase me. things were intimate in the past, however, it all feels too tame now.

as things stand, i think i left the length of time between texts too long. making them wait creates suspense and DHV, however, being with my friends, i wasn't fully concentrating on the texts, and left it too long, creating a beta image? what are your thoughts on the length of time between texts? any critique on what went wrong on my texts would also be appreciated.

me (7.07) yoo, who's out this weekend? x (this indirect opener stinks of social approval)
hb (7.10) was going (insert club name) tommorow, but everyone has work. Gay times x
me: (8.09) fuck those lezzers, it's been a while (insert nickname), you keepin' well? x
hb: (8.11) ahaa, i know babe. i'm good yeaah, how are you? x
me: (9.16) chillin' with my boy (insert friends name), how's the back? xx
hb: (9.21) ohh sick sick. isn't he with (insert gf's name) now? back is killing. nothing a bit of malibu can't help xx
me: (9.42) yeah, she's coming over now. shouldn't use alcohol to solve your problems. i'm sure a massage would be more effective xx
hb: (9.45) ohh, lovely well yea it would, but i don't have one, aahaa xx
me: (10:42) gutted for you, doesn't look like you're getting one soon. save some malibu for me xx
hb: (10:55) i know :/ i only have a quarter of a bottle left, damn damn xx
me: (12:20) drinking on your own is saaad. what are we gonna do about this problem? xx

alas, no response. too late? too long between texts? too flat?

half an hour to more than an hour?

you've got to be kidding me.

the effect of your timing between texts on how much you can attract her is completely negligible.

Besides texting is lame.

Thats the reason why i use the fax machine.

And what comes to your orginal question. I would say that make it random and spontanious without getting crushed under some formula concerning timing between texts.

[ Johnny B ]

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cheers for the feedback gang,

the length wasn't intention, i was round my mates, however i just realised that it could have killed the momentum. try & keep it lower?

also, any specific critique for what i was saying?

go on youtube and look up "julian foxx/vin di carlo txt game" they make some solid points, and i found them very helpful when i was analysing my own txt game. and it sounds to me like it wasnt what you said but that it was too late. her last txt was at 10 sumthing saying she was nearly out of alcohol, you responded almost 2 hours later... she was probably asleep or throwing up somewhere. i wouldnt take this as rejection at all.

right, but the sequence didn't continue into the next day?

should i continue the game now, on the next day? or leave it for a while? any ideas on opening once more, with an eye towards progress. i don't wanna play games and then have nothing happening in physical form, i.e. arranging a meetup.

Dude...ok so most of the poster say that timing doesn't affect how much you attract the girl - and well I have to agreee it really doesnt. But I can see where you're coming from - you wanna build suspense, which maybe could lead to more attraction. The best way to do this is to reply without delay for the first few texts - to build momentum as you say. Use the first few texts to get her really excited - making her anticipate your texts more and more.....and just before you reach a peak...you slow it right down. And you slow down little by little - first take 10 mins to reply, than 15 and then 20 mins...but never take more than that time. And also reward and punishment comes into play - if she replying more quicker, or with things you like you reply faster....if she's not then you take your time. Good luck.

I have to think that time doesn't really matter much between text, because people realize that not all people are attached to there phone. In my personal opinion I would have to say that you were criticizing her a bit to much. I have run into this problem myself. Text is a very tricky thing which is why I stay away from it. While I am sure you were trying to be friendly and playful with your text she may have not taken it that way. Your best bet is to call her and talk to her. Hope this Helped.

Alias

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Thanks, Alias.

What about ending it like "Drinking on ur own is saaaad..", wait her out, then call her?

wrong path?

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I completely agree. I think that the time doesn't effect much. But I've learned with texting that if your with your friends or busy, just tell her that you cant really talk right then and ask if you can call her later.

Texting is really tricky about how people take the things you say. You meant the last text to be funny but its really easy for them to think that your being a dick. With talking on the phone its easier to portray your emotions rather than texting and they don't know how you meant the comment.

This is what i have gathered from my own experiences.

Best of luck

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look at her response time, always within 10 mins. why are you going to wait over an hour per reply? you could have easily set up a meet had you not took so long. she passed out probably eatin some other dudes dick who responded in same amount of time she did. you sat on it and you lost it. she was compliant, she matched your humor, then you might have blew it with that last text about drinking alone.

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how do i go about recovering it?