Hey guys thanks for your responses!
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LeathalWeapon wrote:
it seems that your the rebound guy
StreetLight wrote:
You probably are, but that doesnt mean you can't build a relationtip on this
I really don't think i can be called the rebound guy. I'll fill you in with a bit more details:
1. I met her on a dating site a year ago (while she still had a boyfriend)
2. We have texted nearly every day for a year - She initiates the texts 99% of the time.
3. Infact i have played the whole thing extremely calmly as she has had a bf practically the whole time i knew her (even if i didn't know about it the whole time).
4. She has driven 160 miles on two occasions to see me at home! Last time just a few days ago!
5. I have had dinner with her family (160 mile drive for me)! This was extremely strange and i cant work it out cos she was still with her bf at this time! (seriously...any PUA's who can explain this???)
6. We stopped talking for 3 months when she chose to stay with her bf over getting with me! They have 2 dogs which they own jointly so it'll be hard getting rid of him completely!
7. We started talking again about a month ago. I went on holiday and put loads of photos of girls all over my Facebook. When i returned she had posted me a painting that she spent 3 days painting for me and a letter asking to meet up again.
8. We met up again between our two homes (she brought her sister and a friend with her) and she said that it's up to me if i want to be with her now!
9. 2 weeks later she came round to my house for the 2nd time which brings us to the present day! I told her before she came that i was gonna ask her to be my gf when she arrived, but it didn't seem right to do mainly because of her "ex" still listed as her bf on Facebook.
10. I'm going round to hers in 2 weeks. She has challenged me to find the balls to ask her to be my gf. Which i fully intend on doing!
11. The problem is of her ex, who she says knows about me and how we met, how long we've known each other etc and that i'm the only guy who's ever given her an orgasm during sex. He is still listed as her bf on facebook and its seriously annoying me! She says they are broken up but i'm not sure what to believe after everything.
So what to do???
I have read all over this forum for people in similar situations and have not found any! This is what i'm planning on doing when i see her, i appreciate your thoughts.
1. Confront her about Facebook, act like it and he barely bothers me but say that she really should take him off!
2. Ask her to be my gf!
I really don't think i'm the rebound guy cos this has gone on ages and there has been so much investment from both of us.
And yes i have thought about the moral implications of seeing a girl with a boyfriend. She clearly doesn't love him and was only there for convenience i think. I'm also aware i could be heading for a big fall and a lot of pain.
Thanks.
ps: another ioi - she asked me to find a guy for her best mate!