hey everyone,

i came over this forum and I really need help from u guys... I can't take it anymore, i don't know whats happening to me and I need a solution big time

I'm now in university, and have absolutely (well almost) NO success at all with girls, and when I score which has been only once or twice, I blew it away directly.. I grew up in a religious family and am a tad overweight which discouraged this stuff but in high school i didn't give a fuck anymore about rules, I wanted to live my life, and being in contact with girls wasn't much familiar to me that much... and started getting lost since then

Since then Ive tried hard to fit in, make friends (girls), and try getting a girlfriend, but I just cant seem to get it right... I just have this thing that makes me act fake and not myself in front of a girl, or girls (or awkward)! and I cant make friends, I just think of how ill attract her and that bullshit... Ive read alot of advise, posts, forums, but they're just not helping..

I need help..BIG TIME, i know this is a really big question, BUT WHERE DO I START?! Im getting really sick of this, I really cant take it anymore... Im in univ and still not a single girlfriend.. WTF?

First advice: Calm Down
You are only strongering that image in your head concerning you sucking bad when it comes to meeting women when you are saying " i suck " , " im bad " , " i cant do this ". THis is just a waste of energy and a beginning of a self destruction.
YOU CAN AND YOU WILL DO THIS NO MATTER WHAT.

Second advice. Break this " huge " problem into peaces.
Stop only looking at the problem but instead looking at the factors behind it. This may require some inner exploring but you only concentrateing to what you can see aint the answer. Try to digg up the factors that are causing this problem and than trying to understand why and how these problems exist and how you can solve/ control/ notice them in your everyday action.

Third advice: Knowledge is power but USE it instead of hiding behind it.
THis means that you only reading and than doing nothing with that information is just waste of energy. You need to carry through the plan and not get stucked only sucking the information. Having information in your head is good if you know how to use it in your actions. It can give you confidence and some understanding concerning the " game " but you need to execute this information via your action.

Fourth advice: This is a journey which takes time so dont panic and stop doing it.
You seing results may take time because the road is different for everyone. Maybe it takes more time from you to get over some obstacles but the main thing is that you dont give up. Instead you add heat to push it through no matter what. ITs your road and you will get it done if you just want to. It all boils down to your will to get it done.

[ Johnny B ]

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