I remember one newsletter ole DeAngelo sent out once... and I've searched my email, but for the life of me I never was able to find it... but it detailed a "secret" or "code".
Basically the way I remember it (it's possible I'm remembering it wrong), it went:
Quote:
Actions = Nice/Accomodating (I don't mean buying her gifts, I mean opening doors for her, pulling out her chair, lending her a lighter for her cigarette)
Words = C&F/Challenging
Does anyone know which one it is that I'm talking about?
Anyway. This sounds excellent. I don't agree with DeAngelo on everything by any stretch, but since I've remembered this, I've put it into practice. This seems to be THE answer. That's how well it all fits. It's not about being either a nice guy or bad boy. You're being both in all the right places.