Ahoy hoy I am soon to be cast into the real world (no more uni) so am thinking I should work on my speaking, public and for presentations. Any advice or books you could recommend would be good?

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I was just thinking about you yesterday actually, your book caught my eye in My Documents, it's pretty good. Good job you got club game sorted too because you don't get supplied with girls after uni!

I think tbh you already know what you should do, eyes that engage the listeners, body language, tonality and stuff.

I read a tip from Introducing NLP that when speaking to a lot of people include words that appeal to all three types of people, etc "I see how this", "I feel this idea", "I hear what people have said".

Very cool idea; I can maybe help as choosing to do a lot of speaking engagements (and then actually having the guts to do them) has helped my inner game immensely. Nothing like getting up in front of a hundred people for an hour to get rid of social anxiety

So, as far as tips, I've found the type of speaking you do and how you develop a presentation depends entirely on your audience and the purpose of the talk. So for example, a presentation in a business setting will be more straightforward--the quicker you get the facts out the better. On the contrary, something like a conference or other setting will be more relaxed and give you the opportunity to use humor, stories, etc--more entertainment. That said, I always joke around in normal life so when I speak it's no different, business or not.

The biggest things I've learned are these: if you want people to remember something, relate it back to something they know or a really great funny story. Second, if you are working with Powerpoint slides, less words and more pictures is ALWAYS better--I don't memorize my talks at all, I just use a key word or two on a slide with an awesome pic to remind me of the next thing I wanted to discuss, and then I wing it. And three, only "memorize" the first lines, how you are going to begin, and let the rest come naturally. And yes, animated body language, facial expressions, and variations in tone are helpful in keeping your audience engaged (wearing something attractive helps too ).

HTH

--L

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Get a customer service job that has you directly dealing with the public face to face.

There are some groups that practice it. I think they are called toastmasters international or something like that and they should be represented almost everywhere...

awesome cheers guys

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This is exactly what I was going to recommend you to do. Join toastmasters(its free or really cheap) and that will help you with what you need. It will also make you a more interesting person which obviously leads to attraction.

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I recommend toastmasters as well.
Try different locations to find a group that interests you.
The great thing about it is everyone has a common insecurity (public speaking) and common goal (get better) so the environment is very positive, uplifting, and objective.

When you're speaking, you OWN the audience. You can be bigger and more forceful than you can in social situations, and controling the audience and the room is your right. Approach it with that attitude, as well as careful thought about who the audience is, and what you're trying to make them feel and think, and you will likely succeed

also consider joining a debating team - it forces you to think on your feet in a public speaking situation, and to structure logical, concise arguments that are effective in a public speaking situation.