I keep being told I need to change my ways, That I need to find confidence in myself. But to change would be changing the person i want to stay, but staying this way is very depressing.

I'm the kinda guy who doesnt mind listening to a chicks problems, i dont mind staying up all night just talking about life n shit. I care alot for any female who befriends me, But ive been told this will get me NO where in the relationship field. I'm To much of a best friend for any girl to think of as a potential boyfriend, just cuz i like to listen, care and want to treat her with the most respect i possably can.

Ive turned down sex atleast 4-5 times in my life because it didnt feel right with that person. But now im going to be going to a college with 0 females and no sexual experience for 2 years, ill be out of college as a 21yr old virgin if i dont change this by September.

Should I try to change my ways to be more of a ladies man? instead of a ladies friend? Or stay the way i am and hope a girl will see the good in me like my previous girlfriends haves?

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The name is pronounced Serious, But spelled Cyrious.

Everything you described about yourself is a good trait - this isn't the thing thats making girls see you as a best friend rather than a potenital lover. Its you bad traits, your neediness....your're whatever - I cant tell you your bad tratis cos you haven;t told us.
Also think of it like this - a girl would not see you as a potenital partner if you go to her offering her care, attention and love. It will seem to have less value - because she didn;t have to do anything to gain it.
On the other hand, if you make her work harder for it - make her work harder for your care, trust and love - you'll be gettin somewhere. Making her work for your care gives it value - making you socially higher value than her - and girls want males who are of high value!!

There is no right and wrong here.

If you feel bad about being a specific way, you should change.

If you feel that you dont want to change then dont.

The only thing that matters is that you should feel good. You also have to realize that the way you behave changes the outcome of a situation, just try to figure out what you want.