I second that... Don't you dare use a smiley haha...

Alright guys, so I wrote her "Hey X, thanks for a nice night. Dont know what youre thinking, but i reckon its best if we just stay things, the other stuff wont work."

Answer:
"Hey Y. Ive felt really guilty [rough translation]
over what happened. I also think we should keep it to ourselves and keep being
friends "

What do I do? Both rough translations from danish so some of the meanings about guilt etc are a bit altered.

HA HA HA HA HA !!! We ruined you're chances!! HA HA

no I'm just kidding, its GREAT result, now, each time you will meet as "friends" she will get crazy (who IS this guy?... why is he not interested in me?.. did I dis something wrong? am I not attractive?)

each time you will somehow flirt with her she won't know what to think, but for that you need to meet her, set a "date".. but don't call it that way, just hang out, but not right now... wait a bit

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another good thing that I always say, you have to set her in the same set of mind she was, by continuing conversations from the night she was in to you

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Cheers mate. So for now, no replies to her text and then I just wait without doing anything till I see her again?

What about the time frame? We usually run into eachother every one or two weeks, but if her sister thinks it's weird to invite me over, I guess I might have to initiate a meeting somehow. How long should I wait at max?

Edit: I'll remember that. If I could remember anything we talked about Obviously though, I guess that the next time we're alone, we're gonna talk about what happened.

I agree with everybody else. You are on the right track !! I am still going with her sister has a crush on you and that's the main problem. If you get a chance ask her cause I'm dying to know if I'm right!
Good Luck

Alright, so no new development since I wrote her, I have a feeling it might be at least one or two weeks 'till I see her again unless I do something about it. My idea is to text her something along the lines of "Hey X, (maybe: can't really seem to forget about the other night), what do you say we meet up and talk things over so we can get it out of the world [native expression] and get rid of the awkwardness?"

Hm, this sounded better in my head. Not sure it would work, but it's about the only thing I can think of that I think might actually work, since she'll turn down any more direct proposal. How long should I wait before contacting her again?

Again, thanks for all your help. Appreciate it.

Sorry to bump my own thread here, but I could really use some advice on what to do. Also, I fairly certainly won't see her for some time - but I will see her sister on friday, 1½ week, and I'm wondering whether I should try flirting with other girls infront of her sister, or does the jealousy thing only work if they see it themselves directly? Also, if I don't see her in the next, say, 1½-2 weeks, should I text her, or just forget about it and maybe wait for an oppurtunity in the future (running the risk that she might start seriously dating the guy she's seeing)?

I say leave it alone for now... She F*ed you for christ sake... She's either thinkin about you as much as your thinking about her or she's just slutty and doesn't think anything about it. Either way don't send another text unless its something like "Let's get together and finished what we started so we can put this behind us...".

But that's just my suggestion. What do ya have to lose. Whatever you decide don't send her any "nice guy" texts (let's get together for coffee and talk about it, blah blah blah).

NO!!!

Both of you have a big problrm... YOURE MAKING A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT

you are a guy that sexuallity is NOT a big deal from him... youre cool with what happened and youre the kind of guy that doesnt care if youll finish what you started or not...

you want to hang with her because of HER !!!!

and then you WILL get her

(after edit)...

"hey me and bla bla going to hang.. wanna join us"

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I will agree with this advice.... No need to confuse you even further....

please continue with that story, I really enjoy this post

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Thanks for keeping the advice coming. I haven't texted her anything yet, and will wait for at least some days still. I'm probably going to hang out with another friend and her sister this saturday, and I don't know if she'll be there. (Should I ask her sister if she will? - I guess it can either come off as needy or as not wanting to see her, which both would be pretty bad for me.) So saturday, I guess I'll get a bit more perspective. Whether or not the girl is there, I should play it cool and like it's not much of a deal, right?

I guess - if I don't see her saturday or some other day randomly - I have the choice of either texting her something or just to keep waiting. I kind of like the latter idea, I have a feeling that it might lead to us doing something again. But then again, it might as well lead to the tension being forgotten I guess. I've decided that I'm going to text her and say fuck if it I get rejected, if that turns out to be the best solution.

Are there any things specifically I should look for in her sisters body language or words to indicate anything saturday? (I doubt she herself will be there, but she will probably have talked quite a bit about it with her sister. Although I guess in the end, her sister is going to excommunicate her own idea of what happened, in a sense.)

Look, in the end YOU have to choose what to do, don't be too confused, you know the girl better then us.

I just want to say that you are now in a very good position, I think you SHOULD meet the girl (because I think that the chances of getting something without doing anything are scarce), but don't be awkward about what happened...

anyway GOOD LUCK man

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Thanks man, and thanks for all your help again.

Whereas I may know this girl better, I have a feeling you know women better. I've been thinking about calling her and just being pretty straightforward, saying something like "Hey, I like you - lets go out for coffee" or something, maybe it's ridiculous. I will try to meet the girl, but not sure how you achieve it.

What would you do in my place? (Pretty exact descriptions please )