What defines You as yourself?

In this peaceless world people claim to be themselves on a regular base.
But the question arises, are they really themselves or are they that what society wants them to be. In my personal opinion people arround the globe are doing what society wants them todo, rather in war or in peace.

So now my first question arises, what kind of clothes do you wear? Those whom you expect girls to like right instead of wearing that what you really wanna wear, some baggy shit jeans which fits your sexy ass and is really smooth.

What do we do when we meet people? We tend to give them a hand (when its the same sexe) and we dont squeeze it cause we're afraid that this might hurt them. Power is dominance and here you simply show a lack of dominance. Sometimes you dont wanna be the dominant one, you want to be submissive because your in a job interview, but you don't want to be a complete wus because this doesn't get you the job and you need that job to be able to hunt gorgeous females on a daily base and maintain yourself.

So now my second question arises, are you a dominant person or a submissive one living in fear to hurting others?

When we speak to people? Do we use or normal voice or do we lower or voice to become more socially acceptable once again.

So the third question arises, do you want to be accepted or are you truely yourself with a true manly voice speaking to females as demanding and telling the others guys what you expect from them.

From my point of view all this behavior is what society learned us, it will let you loose or lower your hunting behavior so desired by the females arround the globe these days.

So my true question is: Are you truely yourself or are you socialy acceptable?

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True communication is communion―the realization of oneness, which is love! ~ Eckhart Tolle

This is a very good question and i think everyone should ask this from themselves.
Am i something i really want to be or just filling the imaginary shoes that all the others are telling me to wear?
If so, than who am i really trying to please and why?

[ Johnny B ]

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When you lose, don't lose the lesson. ~Author Unknown
Fear has a large shadow, but he himself is small. ~Ruth Gendler

I'm both. I follow fashion to an extent (if you look like complete tool you're always gonna be a social reject, way the world works) but I only wear stuff I like. Those Superdry tops that everyone seems to be wearing look shit, so I don't have one.

This post reminds me of Gunwitch in his Way Of Gun audio series, where he speaks about how the old advice you always get from females "Just be yourself" isn't actually that bad... He also talks a bit about dominance and being a man...

agreed!

and about the way I behave, I try to be as myself as possible, but I do use the language that is appropriate at the particular crowd I'm with

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What are you?





Being both means you're not Yourself, dont want to make this sound harsh.
Just trying to give a realistic point of view, in life its living life or being part of the social life everybody so desires.

Nobody wants to look like a tool, do they, because this is not socialy acceptable. Sometimes i wear funky colors, got quotes like: "GAY" throwed at me more then once. Do you think i give a shit? Even when girls call me gay, i dont give a shit, i tell them... they have one option to ride my freaky cock, if they like it i might give them a 2nd ride.



Didnt listen to this Audio Book. This question came to my mind after seeing so much guys struggle with girls for a while now.
Do we want to be "beta" or "alpha" the choice is ours to make, it's not theirs.




Like said to trixsta you simply can't be both. Don't wanna be harsh just realistic.
Offcourse you can alter the scope you want to present yourself. This is normal but you simply CANT be both.
Its either being yourself and sometimes need to alter yourself to get the job for example, you cant AMOG your 'boss', cause he does supply you with your basic needs money! The thing that drives this world more then ever.

-- Just my $0,02's

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True communication is communion―the realization of oneness, which is love! ~ Eckhart Tolle

I am more myself then I am a social construct. Having said that, there are parts of myself that are created because of the way society is and the way I've been raised, there is no true distinction between one and the other.

At this time in my life, I'm choosing to do things that make me happy, and to do things that will further me as a person. Very rarely this is indulging in fashion, the last few purchases I've made are white shoes for me to draw designs on, and that is because I want to become better at drawing.

I can't say that I am not keeping a tab on fashion though, I can't say that I don't wear things that look good on me for the sake I want to look good. I can't say that I don't style my hair because I want to look good. But to this, I quote Fight Club: "You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khaki's."

In a perfect world, we wouldn't have fashion, but in a perfect world, we wouldn't have judgement either. Judgement is what strives for us to be socially accepted, and conform to social stereotypes and conventions, and while these conventions and stereotypes define us superficially, they DO NOT define who we are.

~JR*

as much as we strive to ourselves, we cannot forget that we still live in a certain society, and there are certain things we need to do to be in it, beside "who we really are" in a way has something to do with how we grew up, where, people around us and all, we learn from the world thus we change

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I disagree with this but agree with this -
You are what you are. I like being fashionable because I like to look good. That is me. Is it a result of being society? Maybe. Do I care? No, because I like it. I wouldn't feel myself dressed scruffily. You can argue that there is something wrong with my inner game but that is a matter of opinion, like this topic.

I don't dress well to get laid (it helps though); I dress well because I have respect for myself, but it just so happens the way I dress is sociably acceptable.

You can say that society follows fashion because they follow trends, but I could also say that if a lot of people like one piece of clothing better than the other, then maybe that piece of clothing is just generally better.

Again though, better is a contentious word. One man's opinion is just that - an opinion. It is equal to another man's (unless you have significantly more influence but again they are still equal in terms of human beings).

Who is right? No one. Like you said, "The world exists in shades of gray, not in absolutes".