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i dnt really know what you guys do when your on a sarge, but here's the best tips I can give for you guys since you're starting out and you're really young (it's a good thing btw, just learn to manage your priorities).
HAVE A PLAN
Me and my wing, Tornado, always have a game-plan before we go out. This could be a goal to achieve (x numbers of openings, number-close, kiss-close). This could be as a team or personal goal. It makes it easier to see how far your gonna take the interaction ie. not wasting time and effort on useless sets.
If it does go far than the objective, GOOD! Just be aware of your wing and what's he's up to. You don't wanna be a dick who leaves your wing in the middle of a sarge. You're both in this thing together. Support each other.
HANDLING OBSTACLES
The first skill to learn to be a good wing is to handle the obstacles. As I said above, it helps to have a plan and choose the targets. It's usually first dibs for the guy who opened the set. It's sort of courtesy to the PUA who opened since he's a bit lower value since he's putting his self out there, compared to the guy who's just merging with the set.
It doesn't matter if you divide the attention, that's the whole point! You need to give each other a chance to isolate your targets from the group (or even split the group if it's huge).
on your situation...
NEGGING
There was too much unnecessary negging. Based on your story there's little to no A2(female to male attraction) or A3(male to female attraction). Easy on the negs, callibrate it to match the social-status of your target and how hot she actually is. I learned that lesson hard, when I neg a girl way too much when I got her on the first one. After the first one she was basically qualifying herself to me, my mistake was I got carried away (I was still starting out).
INTERACTION
One thing I learned through Gaming is that KINO is the fastest way to escalate the interaction, when you're isolated. So isolate as soon as you can. Touch a woman (or girl in this case; I mean c'mon she's 19) the right way and she will go nuts. Combine that with high DHV routines (the best ones are personality reading, and teaching them new tricks; not necesarily magic ones, and some of your DHV stories).
CLOSING
I think you made the wrong move by adding her and not waiting on her. I mean regardless if she doesn't add you on Facebook it doesn't really matter, it sounds more like a flake to me and since you added her, it lowers your value.
Yours and her social circle are close anyway, don't worry bout it too much. You'll soon find out after sarging longer, there's a lot of hotter girls out there. Don't suffer on One-itis.
BASICS
Mind your body-language, tonality, and frame. Since the target is of "high-value", yours has to be projected as higher. You wanna project this the before you even to talk to her, this is why as I said earlier work the room. The best person that can help you with this is your wing, I mean that's why you guys go out as a team, you support and help each other on the improvement of each game.
I hope this was helpfull...hit me up on how it goes.
More Power and always have Fun on your sarge,
N!NJA
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