Hi. Tebu here.

First of all, I'm tired of how I'm seen in my current circle of friends, and wanted to meet new people but as someone different. Because I didn't want to associate with who I was before. I'm approaching women/dudes even in an effort to make new friends (leading to meeting new women) but I introduce myself as Noah rather than my real name. OK there's the introduction. Now here's what happened:

I went to the local shopping centre (walked because I can't drive) and approached a girl with the regular greetings and small talk. It was kind of awkward at first because there didn't seem to be a reason for me to be talking to her. She mentioned after a while she was waiting for someone. I kind of ignored it and kept talking then after another few minutes of slow, unsure conversation a man turned up. Like asking who I was then leaving me out of the conversation. It was awkward and I mean AWKWARD. So I just left.

I guess what I want is a reason to present them when I approach. I was thinking about just moving here from a different state and looking for friends. Something more interesting and non-weird though. Without a reason I'm nervous as hell. I'm almost 18 by the way and would prefer an experienced user to answer this.

Also, how else would I go about making a new circle of friends and dissociating from my past? What kind of hobbies could I take up?

Hey Tebu,

As you get older and your path goes its on way, youll notice that you and your friends from highschool/middleschool/elementary will grow far away. It can be a good and bad thing for you, but remember you want to associate with people that are going somewhere in life not thugs and druggies.

Are you going to college soon? Try making friends at college or get in some college activities. Maybee a new job towards more of what you want to do in your future? Don't do anything drastic till you weigh your options..

As far as talking to the girl in the mall man I'm glad you attempted to. Cause even though you thought it was "Awkward" you took the first step of being a pick up artist when you approached her instead of walking by like most ever other dude and staring at your feet nervously. Keep trying apporaching people, make yourself believe its not awkward, and get over your shyness Tebu.

hello mate
i know exactly were you are coming from. although i am not the most experienced person in the world i can relate to exactly how you feel. i am almost 18 as well, and i pursued to make a new friend group last year when i was actually 16 still. it was a task that took a lot of time and effort to achieve but i got results.

first of all i simple started talking to everyone at my school. its basic. the more i talked to different groups the more comfortable i was to talk to everyone and increase who new me, who i made friends with and so on. once i did that, i tend to take a person from each group, mostly female and sometimes male, simply out to lunch. one at a time or sometimes 2 at a time. this gave me a chance to connect with them. this was helpful because when they connect with you, they notice you more. you get invited to more things from them, but also they talk about you to your freinds, who then notice you as well. some introduce you to there other freinds and your circle grows. i dont hang out with a specific group just so i am known as a friendly guy to all groups and have more options when wanted to go to a party, i know alot of people to ask to go with and a lot of people that have parties as well. works out for the better. finally on that note, i throw a party a while ago, and i had enough people i new to come, which also boosted how many people new about me in general, and how many people had a great time and became closer with me, that takes a little more planning though haha

know, as far as hobbies, i am an athlete. i am in the newspaper sometimes and am well known to be one of the better athletes at my school. this is what helps me a lot to, people notice me, we talk, then they see me in the newspaper. i know its very hard to be an athlete like this but it has helped me. find a hobbie you are good at and really pursue it. it helps you talk to people as well as involving them later on. its hard to say what hobbie fits you but i personally go for hobbies that would give me a large amount of notice, sports and art are mine. yours can vary depending on your strengths

key to all of this, go out and talk to people. you dont need fully set routines to be freindly. relate to people you talk to if you feel the convo being lost, to anything about them. about there clothing, how they are nice, or even a simple question


its hard at first but go out and make it fun

mR.e

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