TITLE: When one ingredient is missing...
AUTHOR: N!NJA
DATE: 22nd December, 2009 (date of sarge/event)

I decided tonight to not fully go on a sarge but to test and achieve method of DHV-ing yourself to a whole room with the use of your immediate social circle. It didn’t really turn out that well, although it was still a good night out with my workmates and friends.

It was getting late, so I decided to just chill out and enjoy my wine. All of the sudden, someone yells my name and low-behold it’s my wingman with a 2 set with him on a table behind me. I almost forgot that he was still in the club. He waved me to join him in the table, NINJA to the rescue?

TORNADO: Hey man, you need to meet these girls...

NINJA: Really, are they cool...enough (ha ha ha...)

SET: Hey! (giving me the look that I should be apologising by now, hahaha)

NINJA: Alright, well that needs to be proven then...

I look to my wingman, and give him eye contact to check if he’s cool with his target and give him some Isolation. He gave me the signal, and I proceeded to handle the obstacle. But the biggest surprise to me was that the obstacle turned out to be my ideal target. Brunette, smoky eyes and good body, now to test if she was a bit of a bitch.

NINJA: Hey how’s it going?
HB: Meh, I’m bored with all these magic tricks (she says while grasping her wine glass).

NINJA: Oh really, well I think I have something to solve that.

HB: Oh really...(she does this while blowing smoke at my face, BINGO! )

NINJA: I can tell you about yourself, even better than your friends.

HB: Really, how are you going to do that?

NINJA: well, for that I need some privacy. Let’s grab a sit over there.

At this point, I led her to an isolation area. She gave me enough compliance just by her eagerness to sit down with me. When we sat down, I immediately ran some kino (since it’s still my sticking point in my sarges) and start projecting my voice (based on the observations of my wing, I spitting a lot on my previous sarges ‘cause I was speaking way too fast).

NINJA: Here (tapping on the couch area where we were going to sit), give me your
hands (I do this while presenting my hands, palm up to her, she complies).

HB: Is this it?
NINJA: No not yet, I need to test how much trust you have on me right now.

HB: Ok (with a slight giggle)

NINJA: Ok, do you have an imaginative or visual mind?

HB: No, not really ( shit test?)

NINJA: You’re kidding right? Well let’s do it anyway, close your eyes.

I ran Style’s version of the cube, since based on personal field experience it was the most effective. I did the routine, while playing with her fingertips. I won’t go in depth on the cube on this one since you can search it anyway on the net. She describes her cube and then went on explaining it to her.

At some part of this interaction, there were obstacles coming in every now and then. These was like other AFC’s, which was handled by my wing and her friends which was easily handled when she gave the girl code, “It’s alright, he’s cool”. I don’t exactly know what it was, but I’m pretty sure it translated that way.

The interesting part is that everything that I explained in her cube, except the horse (her ideal man or current boyfriend), is blurry and up in the air. By blurry I mean, it’s not quite accurate, roughly 50% of the description of the objects where off the mark. The only one which was on the money was the horse. This is where being fast on your feet is very handy. The next part is purely me listening and just picking out information that I can use. It’s based on all how I listen to my female friends, and basically help them out. Not only with relationships, but also with other stuff that they generally just need a friend.


NINJA: Hmmm...that’s interesting. So I got your horse right.

HB: Yeah (slightly showing disinterest).

NINJA: So based on what you said, he’s basically chewing on your grass and flowers basically he’s messing you up, or in other words he’s cramping your style.

HB: Yeah in a way, he messed me up. I was in love with him for awhile. He’s Argentinean, very hot but he basically gave me a mind fuck.
He was here for a student exchange and met him through a friend, we got along really quick.
You know I won this contest to basically go to Argentina, Buenos Aires. And now I wanted to see him, sent him an email but he didn’t wanted to see me.

NINJA: Wow, that’s funny I used to date this Argentinean girl as well. I almost proposed.

HB: Oh my God! Are you serious?! (This was the turning point of the interaction).

NINJA: Yeah, it was a long relationship as well. Six months in fact. Until she told me, “oh, did I tell you I had a kid?”

HB: What the hell? What did you do?

NINJA: Well I broke it up with her.

HB: Where you that turned off from the kid?

NINJA: No, it’s not. It’s the dishonesty that put me off. It took her 6 months to tell me that? I mean, I was about to propose mate. I need honesty.

By the way, all of the things I said about the Argentinean girl are true. This was still back in my AFC days. She was a cool, actually hot as well, and really romantic. So that’s why I was with her for that long.

NINJA: South American people huh?

HB: Yeah I know, it’s hard to get over it.

NINJA: Shouldn’t it be easier for you?

HB: What do you mean?

NINJA: Well you’re a pretty girl with a good outlook. 2 out of 3, that’s pretty good.

HB: What’s the other one?

NINJA: Your energy. because of that “guy”, your energy is off. It’s messed up, and you’re not enjoying yourself even if it’s the most interesting activity.

HB: Your right, although I’m enjoying myself right now. (She puts her hand over mine)

NINJA: How long was this incident with the guy by the way?

HB: 2 years.

NINJA: Holy crap, you should really get over it.

HB: Yeah I should, but how?

NINJA: Like this (went in for the kiss, pulled out). I mean it’s been a while.

HB: Wow...(I gave her an Eskimo kiss)

NINJA: Well...(I look at my watch, I actually need to go)...oh shit I need to go.

HB: Wait, wait (she grabs my arm) you need to help me out on this.

NINJA: Ok, you’re cool give me your number and I’ll give you some tips.

HB: OK here (gives me her number), I’m just going to see my friend, you can leave me if you want.

NINJA: I’m not that rude. I’m going to get some food as well.

HB: Ok sweet.

This is the point where I think I screwed up. I don’t know what type of frame I projected, but she trusted me and in a way, even though I made out with her, I think into the friend zone. After she talked to her friend, she waved me over and I went across the street with her to get some food. I got some food and we were throwing some funny banter back and forth. I invited her to my place which was literally five minutes from town, but she resisted. She said she needs to get home, so I said fine and let her go.

This wasn’t a bad end. Kiss close and Number –close in a span of an hour. That’s a personal best in terms of the K-Close part. So my questions are, how do I break that LMR. I mean, sure the 7 hour rule wasn’t there, but there has to be a way to cut down the seven hour rule. And also the problem I think is the trust is too high without being it about sexual trust. So LMR and sexual triggers and escalation is my problem on this sarge.

I will wait for your guys feedback on this. Any technique that I can try in-field would be appreciated. Till next time.

- NINJA