hey guys,

so i meet this girl who just randomly added me on facebook. she was hot... so we meet and she is extremely into me (we k-closed) and i read some of her sms which where sent to her best friend which contained stuff like "ahh i love him, i fell like a 13 year old schoolgirl around him "

well then she went on holidays for a few days and came back

of course i wnated a day2 to so i tried to arrange one... first she said she couldnt, due to school, then she wrote me she might want to go, then she said she couldnt again...

she then wrote me to meet me 2 days afterwards...however, today (were we were supposed to meet) she wrote me a text again saying she still needed to buy presentns and couldnt make it)

she said we should meet monday at 15:00

any idea what is happening?
its a fact that she is really into me! is she playing hard to get? wtf is wrong i dont get it....


the thing is i am leaving in 1 month the country to my uni again... and she knows this!!!

any help would be cool guys
thx

Aside from the way you game her (which you dont mention, so I cant say anything about that), this could be the problem. If she's really falling for you, she might be protecting herself from getting hurt because you're leaving soon.

When she says she wants to meet up with you, she does, but then she probably realises that she will only get hurt if she falls in love with you and you leave her behind, and after some thinking about it, she flakes.

I dont know what the distance will be between you when you go back to uni, but long distance relationships hardly ever work..

In my opinion I would play her back at her own game, when she wants to meet up with you, I would make an excuse "busy going shopping" or something, see how she likes it.

It has worked in the past for me, makes them want you more.

Ill keep an eye on this post, be interested in opinion of the PUA's

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This what i would usually suggest but really there is a limited amount of time here.

need more comfort. shes not sure about you.

maybe shes crazy, i recently had one of these.
dirty flirt over text. "i want you in my bed in your underwear"
she came to my party, i was tired so i went to bed early. when i woke up she was laying next to me :S . on top of the covers with her clothes on. WTF.

we talked and half assed spooned. the next day i get a facebook message and text saying. "next time we have a sleepover underwear only!" and "i heart you, shirtless, in bed:)".

i ran.

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Very simple. Flake on her this monday.

I would have taken some of the things she said (her excuses) and turned them into a hang-out or date.

Like when she says that she needed to go and buy presents, say something like 'Hey me too, lets go do this together', etc. Saying that makes it look like you can have fun with her in any situation. Unless she is shopping for your gift [highly unlikely though].

But yea, she could be protecing herself from you since she knows you are leaving for uni. So she is putting space between her and you.

I think its a sinking boat, move on to someone else. She is showing all the signs of building a wall between you and her and it appears she may be looking for something more relationship oriented and not just a hook-up.

Best,

J-Dub

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Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

You gotta show her that you don't really care THAT much. I'm in a similar situation and I'm going to flake on her at least once then I'll do something with my friends and ask if she wants to "tag along." I love that line "tag along" it shows that you are a cool guy who is having fun with or without her and you are "allowing" her to come join your fun. Seems to be much more effective then "hey lets go on a date."

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from the looks of it it sounds like she is just busy,

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hey ,guys thx so much for the support.. some reall good stuff there

Do this.

good shit.

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Dont Light The Dynamite, Then Get Mad At The EXPLOSION.....what did you expect?

^So the consensus seems to be: Act like an insecure 15 year old girl . . . nice. In order to effectively pull this off, you might want to text the girl and tell her that you forgot about your manicure appointment with your mom at the mall. You know, just a day out for the girls. Pick up a tube of Vagisil at CVS and chat about cute boys while sipping mochacinos at Starbucks. Lovely . . .

Well that was helpful





Flaking out on her could do that trick. Though I think your best bet is to, as mentioned above, invite her to tag along on something your already doing. Mind you, you could do both

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Whenever I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead. True story.

I'm glad you think so. My hope is that I might be able to stop at least one of you from turning yourself into an insecure little 15 year old girl.(thinking that this has ANYTHING to do with "game")