I want to point out firstly that I do not believe PU is about "change" or helping you to "be social". But seeing as so many of you including myself have used PU to help self development, I've decided to give some words on the topic of "change".

"Man I give up!"

Whenever you hear someone in chat say this, it tells you alot about change.

Change hurts, it's hard, giving birth to a new life, a new personality or even just changing your current one takes effort, mental effort, emotional effort; effort that if you are in a rut that is very hard to come across.

I make this clear to new guys starting out. If you do this right, then the first coulpe of months in the community will be some of the most emotionally draining months of your life. It takes courage to be a PUA, it takes courage to change anything.

It's alot of effort and sometimes it just may seem like it's not worth it. You see when someone says "life is worth living"; to someone who is at the bottom they don't see what you see, they see the more truthful claim.

"My life is worth living."

Ultimatly what makes life worth living is largely a subjective concept; so for some people at a certain stage, they may just quit, and you know what none of us have the right to protest that.

Fact is my asumption that life is awesome comes from my world view, and the only difference between our to views is that my view is judged "normal" because it is the common view.

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This world is fraught with hardship, and when you improve, thier is no graduation ceremony, you have to decide when you are happy, you need to have realistic expectations of happiness.

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This may not seem like a helpful post to those of you who have got their life running and are doing well; but for those of you who struggle and fight everyday.

I want to say in my opinion; that life is tough, it's hard, it's nasty and fraught with suffering; and change is no different, even when it's over your still going to keep struggling to an extent.


You have a decision to make and one of them looks really tempting, but trust me, for the one that seems painful and hopeless; the hurt is for your benefit and the only thing I can guarantee you; but gaurantee it none the less!


...it does get easier.

huh.........?

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Broken down I'm aknowledging for new guys that learning and changing is tough but in the end it gets better and you have to get use to and understand what real happiness is

Edit: Should point out; this is not a defeatest philosophy.

It is important to recognise, as you do change and grow that the process gets easier so although change may seem distasteful at first, it isn't so much a problem as things move on.

Nice post.

Life isnt easy dudes, grow some fucking balls.

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Teasing is a battle plan for what Shakespeare called “the merry war.”

I think the most fun part is going out with your friends and watching them observe the change.

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Just chill, it is what it is and nothing more until you give it meaning.

For me, the lay is directly exponential to the excitement of the chase.

If you want to become a PUA, or improve your approaches to women, the first step is to accept that some things need to change.

But change isn't to be feared. It should be embraced. Everything changes eventually.

Each of us, as individuals, change a little every week, a little more every month, a little more every year.

You have two options: You can allow that change to be benign, where you change in response to events which have taken place and your reactions to them.

Or you can take control of that change, and direct it towards your goals.

By entering the world of pick up - and by understanding that being a PUA isn't about learning a few lines and routines, but rather about fundamentally altering your internal wiring - then you accept that you are going to change no matter what, and it is better to do things that change you positively.

It is emotionally draining. I've only been working through The Rules of the Game for a week, and already it's really taken it out of me! But I'm going to fight on, because the changes I'm already seeing are ones I want to build on.

Good to see you are still hanging around fame

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This is a post about perspective, when you start, the idea of being able to transform yourself can look like such an intimidating and hard task, that is the view point that ultimatly traps alot of people.

And for a large part they are right, change is difficult and draining, but as you move on, change gets easier, and our perception shifts we see that change is worth it, we start to focus on better things in our life.

So while change may sometimes in the immediate perception of a person, look daunting and painful, along with life. Eventually if he/she chooses to take that road they end up in a position with a better vantage point and understand that the change is worth it and life is worth it.

Change may not always seem instantly rewarding, but stick with it and you will thank yourself somewhere down the line.

Two things:
If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it. ~Mary Engelbreit
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Victor Frankl

P.s If you want something that you have never had, start doing the things that you have never done

Pps: Change is the most natural thing to happen, the only time when it is painful is when we are scared to take our natural turns.

Cheers and enjoy every moment of your trip
Jez

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