K so i have been in this scene for a few months now. Every time I sleep with a girl I become very depressed afterward.. Like I can't keep a girl, most of the girls have boyfriends and stuff. I feel used, its the most homo feeling ever! What can I do not to feel so crappy afterward? I love hooking up, but after always sucks. (the sex is usually pretty good too, so i dont really know what it is)

I can relate to this.

I've been trying to work out why this always seems to happen and I've come up with a few theories based on my analysis of real life situations.

1. Creatures of habit
Women, like all people, are creatures of habit and they go back to what they are used to. So even so she is not with her boyfriend at the time that you are slamming her, she is probably still thinking about him.

2. Drunk
She was really drunk when she met you and wakes up and thinks "oh my what have I done, I can't tell anyone about this or they'll think i'm a slut, yada yada yady".

3. Survival and Reproduction
You're survival and reproduction value lacks when compared to her ex-boyfriends. Go on a protein diet and work on you're muscles Sorry, but you're stuck with your genes.

4. Proximity
You live 2hrs away and her ex-boyfriend lives 2 minutes away. Who's going to be able to protect her and be there for her...?

5. Different outlook on life
You're a down to earth farm boy and she's a materialistic city girl.

I too can relate to this one. My game has been improving greatly but I can’t seem to get them to stick around afterwards. The sex has been great so I don’t think that’s it. I feel your pain because it’s like you are good enough to lay them but not good enough to get them to stay. I just had this happen to me a few days ago so it’s still fresh in my mind. The pick up went incredible; probably my best ever which is cool because I know is advancing. Only problem is when it comes to the follow up she totally flakes and it makes me feel down. Would love to know if anyone has this figured out

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~Carmo~

Guys this isn't a Depressed After Sex forum. Get over it and find a new girl haha. There are a million in the sea. And if you are wondering why you are upset it's probably because the girl you just had sex with has a boyfriend already so you feel unloved because you know or think they have a loving relationship and you have no one now. Try to stay away from girls with BF and maybe you'll be happier and be able to keep a girl around. Also, how the hell did you get a girl with a BF to get to bed with you? I heard they are easy to get but what routines, methods did you use? Would love to know.

The advice is good, but if anyone else has any, hook it up. As for how it goes down listen up....
1. Find HB
2. Open HB with opinion (never direct even if she is isolated)
3. Don't seem attracted to her
4. Get her number and tell her you guys are going to hang out soon
(90% of girls with boyfriends wont say they have boyfriends at this point *if done smoothly)
5. Send a text with your name saying it was nice meeting them (within same day)
6. Following day text them, and invite them to do an activity (sledding, snowboarding, biking something cheap)
7. Repeat six, three or four times
(enough comfort should be built were she can come over to your home and think nothing of it.)
8. Have her come over for dinner and a movie (cliche but it works)
(done right, no boyfriend ever pops up in the picture)
9. On the couch, snuggle up...then make out
10. either your going to get some, or she will leave after the movie but will return if asked again by you the following day... in which case repeat steps 6 through 10.
This is what i do, and i usually don't find out about the boyfriend until after sex.

So basically, if you don't want to read all of his #'s.. Don't ask about her boyfriend and try to keep her around. If she has to leave for a weird reason, itcould be because she has a bf. Also you don't need to repeat #6, 3 or 4 times. I can get girls to my place like the 2nd or 3rd time I've met them.... All depends on how cocky u are I guess but I don't wait.

thats my vote.

1. do you want to end up with a cheater? (she cheated on her guy, she will probably do it to you unless you completely knock her socks off and she becomes so into you that you 'own her mind'). yes im generalizing here...but all you have to go on and judge her by is her past behavior. and yes we all judge women, just like they judge us to determine whether we are suitable partners

2. most times a girl that cheats is not 100% fill-fulled in her current relationship...but shes too weak to break up with her bfriend and be alone. instead she fucks around with other guys until she finds something better, only at this point does she break up with her bfriend. i prefer not to deal with girls like this...she will give you more shit than shes worth and shows that she has very low self-esteem and very little respect for others ie. she is willing to falsely lead her bfriend on until her true 'mr right' comes along.

3. even if she does break up with her bfriend for you...chances are if shes come out of a long term relationship youre going to go through shit with her as no-one falls out of love with someone over night (assuming she was in love). there will be contact with the ex and thats probably going to go on for some time until they lose contact completely (if that even ever happens). i prefer to go for girls that have had some time alone and have 'sorted themselves out'. her reason for being with you will be a far more healthy one as opposed to f*cking you purely in order to try get over her ex (for example).