I am completely grateful to the pick up community for the amount of confidence that I have acquired because of the skills that I have learned from this community. However, I just HAVE to know...when I go out and pick up chicks at bars, clubs, anywhere....a lot of them are really disappointing when you begin digging deeper. I'm ready for a relationship again, but I'm wanting a girl that isn't a complete idiot, or isn't completely easy. Most of the time, I find that I have no problem picking up the easy ones or the smart ones. But a lot of the girls seem to have deep rooted psychological issues that were there long before me, and will be there long after me. Where do you pick up a winner? Where do you find the girl that will spin your top? one that's smart, attractive, not crazy, and successful?

The last few girls I attracted was either:
a major drug user
a klepto
unbelievably slutty
ignorant beyond belief
and/or
married/had children (not knocking kids, just not for me).

none of these are appealing to me. Where do I find the good girls? Where do I find the ones that will last and will make me work for my supper. Where are the girls that won't bore me or steal my shit. I'm not saying that all girls are the same, but I'm finding that a lot of the girls in the clubs and in the bars ...are.

its strange you hear a lot of 'bad' things about clubbing girls on this forum....the clubs in my city are full of decent girls. all of my girl friends (most of which are really decent) are all heavy clubbers.

maybe try hanging around the mall, libraries, the BEACH (my fav), big outdoor parties in the wild (if you have them in your city)

I dont belive its a matter of luck - approaching the "right" girls.
You need to identify the charceristics of theese types you now have met and avoid investing time in them. Just because you have the opportunity to go all the way with a target, it seems like you now have the delicate choice of not doing so.

If you start saying no to girls that dont really live up to your standards, you'll find yourself on another level, where you really can hook up with quality girls.
Or at least girls with qualities you want.

And thats what its all about.
At least for me anyway.

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"Don't miss the donut by looking through the hole." ~Author Unknown

They are around you. You just dont pay enough atenttion or you are conciousnessly or unconsciousnessly refuseing to see it.

[ Johnny B ]

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Libraries? hahaha. hilarious. The problem with my town is that it's an overgrown college town. Most of the girls who go to the clubs are extremely trashy. Last night I went to watch a thong thursday contest at a local club, and it got to the point where I was so frustrated with wanting to find the right girl, that I completely lost my element. I couldn't approach or rather I didn't want to approach. It's come to the point where I really could care less about my next hook up. I don't want to hook up with some trashy thong contest winner. I wanna find a girl who is okay with NOT standing on a stage showing her ass to the crowd for her own vote of self confidence. I want a girl who is already self sufficient, not self destructive/self deprecating. I'm not a great PUA, and I know my standards are high...but I think it's time I try and live these standards.