Greetings to all,

Am new around, so gimme some slack if i sound really crappy noob. Anyway, i will love to hear opinion from you guys about this. I often hit the dance floor, and well, i'm a dancer, so i pretty much can do well with my two left feet. The thing is, i notice one of my acquintance who don't really dance much manages to get girls much easier on the floor. He just heads in, gets close, whisper some stuff into her ears and bingo, she's hooked and goes all hot on him. Thus, anyone can advice on how to open a converstation once i start grinding close?

I go to clubs all the time and have no problem approaching girls on the dancefloor. Just go up to them and start dancing with them. It helps if you can put in a few moves with them (like swing dancing, etc.) and get some rapport going. I have even 'stolen' girls from their BF while on the dancefloor a few times.

Do the stare test, if she smiles go up to her and start dancing with her.

Maybe the 'acquintance' you speak of already knew the girl so there really wasn't any magic going on anyways. Don't beat yourself over it.

How do you normally approach girls on the dancefloor? Knowing this would help us help you.

Best,

J-Dub

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Well, i won't pretend to be a pro here, thus, i may be pretty poor at approaching them. Normally, i'll always try to approach from the front after like what you said, the stare test, but i'll try to limit myself to a few seconds, don't wanna project the image of being weird or just another chump in the club. Smile and stuff, the usuals. From here on, it really depends on the energy level of the girl. Is she dancing wild? Or just grooving along? Will then try to match her energy level. And then always comes the crunch part, getting physical. Always hell nervous at this point. Will ask for her hands, spin her around, lock her in, and... You know the rest. Lol.

Any pointers? (=

I'm in the same boat as shingo... good at dancing (bit of a Hip-Hop background), enjoy dancing and do it quite a lot, but just can't wrap one's head around successfully approaching people on the dancefloor. Obviously verbal communication is usually out the window, and if you haven't generated any rapport, interest and attention I usually get the vibe as coming off as some creepy, desperate stranger. When in reality I'll be exuding fun and joy. I dunno. Maybe I should just force myself into more situations...

Okay, I may sound goofy but dude, it sure feels much better when you know you're not alone. Lol. Pray hard Chris101.

Do you go to the d-floor with your boys?

I've got all my friends doing this thing I call the "circle" and it's so
damn powerful.

We just make our own circle of 3-4 guys and go freaking nuts
dancing with each other in this circle, absolutely not giving
a f*ck what's going on everywhere else.

Within a song, people are always surrounding us, we've usurped
all the energy of the dance floor and all the chicks are looking
at us or moving closer to us, while the more aggressive ones have already
let themselves into our circle by then.

Within another song we've all selected any one of the number of girls
at our disposal and paired off.

From that point, it's 2-steps forward, 1-step back for a couple songs,
while whispering funny or comforting stuff back and forth...kiss-close
should come within those first 2-3 songs with your girl.

This works 100% of the time by the way. And you can do it over and over
all night.

This is not exactly what you are looking for, but this is something I have done a few times and I haven't had any problems with it. Again, I am not a fan of routines or canned material, but this is decent.

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I understand you are looking for things to say during/after grinding, but I think when it comes to dancing, it's less about words and more about action / body language a.k.a how you dance. Obviously I don't know the clubs you go to, but at the clubs on my campus, I usually pick-up girls near the bar and not the actual dancefloor... most of the time, we'll make our way to the floor later in the night, but by then I already have them.

Approaching on the dancefloor, though most people here will not recommend it, is not too difficult. Just go on the floor and have a good time... I'm not a bad dancer so I'll usually club it up and just stick myself next to a girl I think is cute. I'll eventually face her and make eye contact, and while I'm dancing, I'll give her the "come here" motion with my hand/fingers. A majority of the time, they comply. If not, who cares and keep having fun.

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Sounds good guys and really, thanks for all the advises.

i like to go "hey you having fun?!!"

and then just go from there

Just got back from the club. Got to realize, somehow, things are so much easier when I build rapport with the chick's guy friends first. Things flow from there on and in the end, i managed to kiss close this HB 8. Okay, may seem nothing much for you guys out there but its my very first few time, so spare me. (=

I didn't really use any opener. Was just asking her if she was from around and she comes to the club often. We managed to get into some heavy dancing and it leads on from there. Is there anyting i'm doing wrong or missing out? Will love to know. Thanks.

i love to jus go to the dance floor and go wild! i usually find a group of some cuties and challenge one of the girls to dance on how low they can drop it or some bs thing..usually draws alot of attention my way which is good and makes it more fun! everyone forgets about jus going out and havin fun with a who gives a shit attitude! at the end i usually ask the girl where she learned to dance..not a bad way to get a convo going!

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I usually feel awkward jus walkin across the floor to a chick. Am i jus bein self conscious and should jus no worry bout it?
Also in one instance I was dancin with my friend n this chick in a sort of circle n my friend left but I didnt kno how ot close the gap between me n the girl. Again, I think I was jus bein self-conscious cuz the floor didnt have too many people on it yet...
Are my only problems my AA and bein too self-conscious?

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