Hey PUAs,

So I am genuinely confused at the moment. There are just SO MANY different ways of picking up girls... so many methods, and so many different things to say, things to do, what not to say, DHVs, negs, don't neg too much, say this don't say that, be this don't be that, AMOGing... AHH!

I realize this is kind of (really) a vague question.. could someone just briefly go over the process of picking up a girl?
From Opening to closing to Day 2?

Thanks!

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Go with a method/style that is natural to you and that you believe in. Some people like lying or manipulating women to pick them up, others feel more comfortable being natural, honest genuine. I've done both and both work just as effectively. But, at the end of the day you have to ask what you feel most comfortable/congruent with.

I'll layout what every "pick up" goes through in the simplest form/language possible.

1) Be in a great state, feel confident/comfortable
2) Approach a woman ("Hey you're cute, I'm Stefan")
3) Escalate things (touch, joking around, teasing, telling stories, building a connection, etc...)
4) Close the deal (get her #, kiss her, get intimate, etc...)

That's all there is to it. You can learn specifics about each step here.

I use my own system, it has been experimented with hundreds of times and it works like a charm! Here is how to lay a girl Slywalker edition condensed version!

1. Open, play with eye contact first if you want. But as you verbally open you should present yourself as being a normal person, the first thing that comes out of your mouth should sound normal, such as "hi" or "how is it going" or "Whats your name". I find that if the first thing you say create a first impression that you are a normal person (not a psycho) that will help the entire conversation.

2. Get her talking, instead of destroying her ears and boring her with endless of stories of what a great guy you are, try to get her talking. Try to find out more about her by encouraging her to speak! You don't have to ask questions just encourage her to go on, you'd be amazed how fast women will talk themselves to your bed if you just give them enough room.

3. Create a mutual comfort zone, start talking about a place, happening, or activity that you both really enjoy, this will create an unconscious bond.

4. Number close and leave, you want to leave when you are on top, when her emotions for you are as strongest. When you leave she will build up more feelings in her head for you and she will want more, show business use the same trick!

5. Call her, chit chat for less than 5 min, finish by saying "we should hang out sometime"

6. Set up the date, do this a day or two later, since you have already spoken on the phone once, texts are ok at this state.

7. Day 2, apply Slywalkers (my!) tension theory, don't forget to set up day 3 while you are still together with her on day 2!

8. Day 3. Since you have already planned this date with her (on day 2) and you correctly applied tension theory, F-closing her on this date should go smooth with zero LMR!

For explanations of Tension theory and comfort zone and more, check out my thread "Ten things I wish someone taught me" linked below!

I do things a little slower than some other PUAs, but on the other hand, my methods are really easy and work so smooth that I never see any resistance from the girl at any stage, she is playing along with your game from the beginning!
Good luck!

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Slywalker

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I personally like getting to the point, and just simply applying Natural Game(I am in no way a natural, i just make the women think i am). Just be cool bro, and don't approach with all this mechanical thinking of negging and shifting to phase 2 and telling chode stories and blah blah blah, it will make you anxious.