my head is in fuck land right now

im not gunna lie ,i dont have AA, im very sneaky at hooking, im ok looking, i dress ok, im confident and charming, i can makeout all the time, i got good inner game when it comes to approaching women, i do all this completely sobre, i can be the party man of the venue with dancefloor, i have the balls to say the worst things to women such as "fancy a fuck", i got balls, im very well rounded when it coems to all form of game, day/night,dance,online etc ,i can open a 10 set of mixed group and go direct on one girl for lulz, think i got some skills that alot of people would kill for right now..........BUT...........

i had a shite night last night,what the hey , shit happens

my results, i get results, ive had a one or 2 decent women, that ended for some fucked up reason, and i fucked complete sluts, had snl 3sums, i musta made out with between 100-200 girls, where as before game i had 4 makeouts

i get lucky every now and then ,just with sheer amounts that i open, i get flaked constantly until i open a girl that is looking for someone in her life, i dont think ive had a result where a girl is just not into me , and i flipped it around, i can just tell if shes looking for it by her facial experession when i open her, i can tell if i will see a girl ever again, just by her instant facial expresion



but i have this problem that i cant seem to make go away which is seriously fucking me up.......

...... THE OTHER GUY'S HAVING SUCCESS WITH WOMEN!

for example, this blonde chick last night blew me out, i spot this guy gaming her, so i decided to observe a little , she seemd into him, maybe he already knew her god knows , im just going to assume they just met, i call it a night and i walk past them both walking home together

it really crushes me internally to witness this, in my head im thinking "who fook is this guy, here i am learning this stuff and he taking this girl home, is he in the community or is ahe a natural or..."i get sick to the stomach with this

i get crushed hearing people have sex,i even get jealous at other PUA's having sex, i get crushed when i see actors of movies having sex in the movie, i get pissed off watching guys kiss hot girls,i get pissed of at guys even talking to girls , i dont believe anyone's LR's until i witness it with own eye's, im fucked up in the head i know, i .......

opened a 2 set last night:-

me "you guys seem like fun"
gal "oh thanx lol bla bla"
(hooked good, thought i was in)
bla bla for couple of mins
gals "we are lesbians"
me "your not my type, but we both know your not telling the truth"
bla bla

i eject, and see them kissing other dude's after

wtf!

its easier said than done saying, why should i give a thig about other guy's getting girls andget rid of my jealousy ,or the better man won,
but i cant help it, and this is literally starting to making me suicidal, i really dont know what to do, starting to thinks community has made me worse off

i had less stress when i was a chode when i accepted i was gunna die alone

Phil

anyone else can relate to this?

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I guess but you just got to remember all the times when you took a girl another guy was interested in , from the sound of it im guessing that would be a lot. In regards to the "we are lesbians" it could have just been a shit test and might have been better to plough through and keep going.

This isn't all clear cut as mentioned in some other posts what works for one girl won't work for another as social dynamics are much more complicated and complex than just knowing the game. For example I started talking to a girl and found we had an instant connection because we both had went to Australia (she lived there) and the other guy sitting next to me couldn't compete with that connection that we had .

I still feel what you do at times though

Thanx

your so true

usually, i go to clubs for 2 reasons , dancing and girls , and combined, that way i can have the other if one isnt going so well, but i feel shit dancing alone as i dont expect all m wings to be interested as dancing as me

i realised something last night ........ i went out to my work xmas party so not gaming, we went to the cool ass bar after a meal and comedy club on the deansgate locks, my whole company were having fun dancing, i guess i was in show off mode , and there were these sexy group of black girls dancing

it wasnt that busy , but had girls in there, and we were the fun group (the party) , i forced an IOI on this smoking hot girl in front of her bf away from my group and the black gal group, danced pretty good with her, her bf didnt mind, i asked him if could be her bf too, just generally having fun, and i guess big DHV to the whole room as it wasnt that busy so most of the room was focusing on me and my group, i then danced the whole black girl group , and got number off this smoking hotty with a great body (i love black girls)

my group of PUA friends .is we go to a female's "club fun bubble" when we approach, where as they should get sucked into our group "fun bubble", remember its leading and get the girls to jump into your life not the other way around

i remember at the Manchester bootcamp a while back we had a massive circle of death just like the girls do all the time and we were having a blast and people wanted to join our bubble and thats what it is all about i think
i got this hen party to do belt limbo, then 20 secs later i spotted this rival hen party doing the same thing amongst themselves cus they got jealous of the party fun bubble

when we go out as groups i think its important to have fun together and be the party instead of robots talking "HB,CLOSE,DHV,OPEN,EXTRACT,"

im not trying to persuade anyone or anything to change the way they game, its just something i realised last that its better to suck girls into your fun rather than vice versa, as the chodes i was observing had a cool bunch of guys having a laugh with the target's group of friend's

i cant do the whole one shot one kill on girls, as i think the people that say that are good looking and get the approach invitation's even if they just stand with no value, i think if you receive IOI's you got a good chance of seeing her again whether its be a day 2 or SNL, i dont recieve IOI's from my look's off girl's (peacocking doesnt count) unless i social proof and get into super wooh state which im suually good at until recently

i also think i need to change type of girls, students are great fun and practise, but not really my type of girls

my brother is about to split with his Fiance, and hes a lil bit of a natural , think he slept with 46 girls all from clubs mostly, and i know he will want to go out with me but dont think i can persuade him into game properly (plus i dont want to ruin his life)

i feel better about myself now , perhaps ive accepted that chodes get laid too, i think i need to realise my true self, that a girl would be lucky to be with someone like me, as i got all these things going for me such as......."picking chicks every weekend " - jokes but true, i need to get a fun life as how am i gunna suck girls into my fun life if thats what i do all the time?

i want to get good at this, but its so hard getting good at this if you have lots of other commitments that you gotta do that takes you away from gaming, its a vicious circle, i guess im hoping to get good, then focus on an attractive life after i get good, but perhaps you can not get good at this if you dont have an attarctive life in the 1st place as you got no tractor beam to suck girls into this attractive life "fun bubble" of yours

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Hey man,

It sounds like your beliefs about how cool you are are validated by women's reaction to you. You want to be the guy who gets all the girls. With this as a goal you will always be at the mercy of others. The better you get at this the more you become used to having your desired belief (i.e. 'I'm the guy who who gets all the girls') validated. As a result the fall from greatness that you you experience each time you don't get some girl you want becomes a much further drop and nastier impact.

This could even be responsible for you not getting some of those 'hard to crack' girls. If you are out there trying to read everyone's body language and responding accordingly, then there will be times when the indicators seem bad, so that you'll feel bad and eject. When really there could be a million and one reasons why she yawned, scratched the bridge of her nose, crossed her arms or whatever.

The fact is you can never know or control what Sartre calls your being-for-others, and if you fail to realise that and therefore fail to let go of your natural existential desire to own your being-for-others, you'll always suffer in this way.


How do you change this? That's more than I care to type. Check out The Blueprint if you haven't already for some good chat on this topic, and if you have checked it out, check it out again because you can't have taken the lessons onboard.


Peace,

kowalski

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