i was talking to this girl for couple of days, we talked for like 2 hours a day on
messenger, most amazing conversations, i built rapport i negged
and she seemed to like me, she made a ton of hints and i followed on them
i wanted to meet her but this weekend she goes off to NJ she still seemed to like
me everything went great ton of attraction,
today i talked to her and nothing, i mean she responded to my massages
but she didnt initiate and its just not the same, she didnt try to make any sexual stuff no flirting no nothing. none of that playfulness,
how is that possible for a person to lose attraction in a day without me doing anything? and more importantly how do i get it back?
btw i dont think she plays push pull it looks like she really for osme reason lost attraction shes not flirty not playful yyy?

shes either busy, something going on, a guy stepped back into her life *i hate this one but it happens*.

Since you didnt invest too much time, you should move on. Ive messaged a chick and thought we where cool, even chatting, then out of the blue she deletes me and blocks my aim *she appears online with my other sn*. No biggy.

From experience instant messaging is pretty useless for building initial attraction. Also the more you go on it the more people realize you are on it all the time and have no life, sorry but a 2 hour conversation kinda says that you have nothing better to do with your time.

Having said all this that's not to say it doesn't work, I have pulled a few times online but real life game is so much better. There is no long trust build up until the first meeting, worry of cleverly angled or fake pics to make them look nicer and you have loads to talk about because you have just met. Think about it if you have been talking to someone for 2 hours you will know half there life story already and might run out of things to talk about more quickly.

To answer your question, some girls just chat to random guys to keep them self entertained when they are bored so this might have been the case. Or maybe she met some guy in real life and he done some PUA shit on her and got her number before you.

She may not play push-pull, but you can; and she'll play into it if she has any bit of interest (and she did from the sounds of it)

If you continue on this girl for the next few days, you are only going to push her away farther than what she is now. This non-flirty, lame conversation MAY be a shit test, to see how needy you are. So far, you are failing because I am guessing that YOU initiate the conversations on MSN, always try and keep the conversation "going", and by doing this, you are showing that you are into her - and that you have nothing else to keep you busy in your "boring" life. *Girls dont want what they can easily obtain*

Dont talk to her, give it a few days. Do you have any other communication besides messenger? SMS texting goes a little further from what I have found.

Either way, give her the gift of missing you, because it sounds like you were doing something right if she was flirting in the beginning.

-ub