I originally posted something about this in the general section but I think this is probably the appropriate place to post it.

I'm new to the forum, I'm familiar with some of the game from reading style's book the game. I've always been pretty good with natural game, using negs and sarcasm and humor before I even read the book and learned about negs. My dilemma is this, I met this girl through casual acquaintances and started talking to her on facebook, at first she was resistant and sarcastic but i countered with negs and sarcasm and got her to agree to go on a date with me. We go out and hit it off and we start dating more often over the next three weeks, have sex, everything is good, shes into me. well, I had a medical prob that i had to be put on strong medication for, the meds made me feel foggy and anxious and depressed, to make a long story short, we had plans one night and i had texted her earlier and she hadnt answered, i was driving past her apt, saw her car, stopped and knocked (i know, desperate and retarded, but i wasnt really firing on all cylinders that day), she doesnt answer, calls me after i leave and asks if i was knocking on her door, i said yeah, she got pissed, said she doesnt like that and it scared her when i knocked cuz she was laying there sick and shes a chick that lives alone and its night. so it scared her. I start freaking out apologizing and telling her sorry ive been anxious and not myself all day. she texts me a little later and says im nice but she cant date me five days went by and i didnt call or text but i saw her on fb yesterday and messaged her, didnt address what happened, just asked her how things were going, then cut the conv. short and said i had to go cuz i had things to do.

my question, is there any way I can fix this shit? I really like this girl and we had good chemistry right up until i freaked out that night, she even wanted to go to dinner with my parents and meet them. Im not sure how to go about contacting her and trying to re-open things. I could really use some advice from some more experienced guys! thanks, bros.

Dude, game over....move on...

Now and always you will appear like a stalker to her. I'm surprised she didn't unfriend you yet in FB.

Stop contacting her right now...it will make you look even more like a stalker.

You already said that you were sorry and explained the situation, but still...the stalker thing will be very difficult for her to overcome. You just don't go around knocking on girl' door's when they didn't invite you over.

What would have happened if she had some guy there that answered the door? That would have really been awkward for you...not to mention that your heart would have dropped straight to the crapper.

Once you are in the 'Stalker Zone' you can NEVER can get out of it...that's even worse than the 'Friend Zone'.

Move on and learn from this experience.

J-Dub

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J-Dub in DC

Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

Damn it, thats what i figured but was hoping for some shred of hope. fuck, she was gorgeous, too..... oh well, on to the next one.

That's the spirit. Learn and move on...

Think of it in this way, she is missing out, not you.

Cheers,

J-Dub

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J-Dub in DC

Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

Yea it looks like a lost cause to me. The best thing is always to have a few people you are interested in instead of just talking to one girl as that way you dont feel so attached. The main thing is juts to take it as a learning experience and move on .

Good luck.

Sorry guys but im just curious---are ther different levels of stalker bracket--and is it possible to get out of minor misunderstandings---for instance your into girl talk to her a few times think nothing of it find her pleasant but really dont know anything about her or where she lives--then that night you are over at your friends place--you leave and get the bus home and just as you enter bus shelter there she is sitting on her own or else comes along after and its just the two of you---you say hi but shes all paranoid that you have followed her and she starts acting weird--do they ever accept that that is just a coincidence that your friend lives near her or should you just write it off as never getting outa stalker bracket

Yeah, let this one go...

However, you have NOTHING to lose by sending her a FB message or a text in a months time... who knows

-ub