| This is something I often run into. Truthfully, it does get easier the more times you do it. But I've been experimenting with polyamory. I don't like to lie, I don't like to lead girls on, and I don't like to feel like a douche for hurting their feelings. So whats the alternative? Honesty.
Tell her how much you really enjoy her company, how amazing she is, and how wonderful of a lover she is (if all of these things exist between you two). But, tell her that exclusivity is not something that you have to offer right now, that you don't want to lead her on, and that if she wants exclusivity then she should have it, and that its okay to admit that your not what she's looking for.
Now, before you call me crazy, listen.
What this does is show your higher value. Your an honest guy, a good lover, and someone that cares about her well being while sticking to your guns and knowing what you want. She will most likely do one of two things. 1) Be alright with the situation, and agree to still see you, or 2) Claim that your right, and try to end it. But the hitch with that is that after she realizes your gone, 70% of the time, they will realize what they are missing and would rather have you in their lives as is (however, they tend to have the mind set that they will be the one to change you).
I've been dating 4 different girls recently, and more recently broke it off with 2 of them. I'm still playing the field and searching for amazing women who I want to spend my time with.
I hope this helps with your problem, because becoming attached is a natural part of the cycle (which you can un-learn, but I'd prefer to keep that and continue to play the field). Also, sex is better with girls that know your quirks and you theirs. But being honest with yourself and her is extremely important. Most of all, be true to yourself!
Good Luck!
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