Hey guys so long story short I've been flirting with a HB9 lately that I met in college. We study together sometimes in the library, and she seems pretty interested. However, one day out of nowhere she said that she's kind of "picky" with guys. I don't know why she said that, should I be taking it as some kind of sign??

Wipe it from your mind, over analyzing things does more harm than good.

It's a shit test and an IOI.

She's inviting you to say "oh really?" So that she can start listing all things she likes in a guy, and thus start you off trying to qualify yourself to her. She's trying to set up the hoops and see how well you jump through them. In that way it's a shit test, but it's also an IOI because if she didn't care about you and wasn't attracted to you at all, she wouldn't try to see if you jump through her hoops in the first place.

If I were there, I would have said "yeah me too. It matters a lot to me that a girl is outgoing and open minded, willing to try new things, travels.." etc. and then get HER to start qualifying herself to YOU. Grab her hoops and make her jump through them.

Both good answers, thanks a lot guys. I should wipe it from my mind, otherwise my confidence will drop. I forget what kind of answer I gave her, but it wasn't a bad one - there wasn't an awkward silence after, but there was also no flirting either. Oh well. I just realized something she said yesterday was also a test.. she told me and one of her friends about this guy asking her out for a coffee date and how it was "creepy" I dunno what that was supposed to mean towards me..

There's a lot of tests from girls I can see right through, but other times I'm blindsided by them and have no clue what the hell is up

hey guys just an update and i could use some additional advice please!

We hungout together at school all wknd studying, however her friend was there, but we still flirted a bit. It seems that she might be getting more interested. She was annoyed because this guy had tried getting her to go out a couple times and she didn't want to, so I gave her my opinion and she told him exactly what I said she should and she was very happy I had good advice.

Then she started texting me later that night and I was teasing her about her personality, but in the end I made sure to tell her she's a cute and fun girl as well. Her reply made it obvious that I had, at the very least, put a smile on her face.

Anyways, theres an update. But now I'm likely gonna see her at school again today, and chances are I'll give her a ride home if she took the bus earlier. I want to ask her out on a date, but not sure what I should say. ONLY b/c she's kind of a shy girl as well as that guy that she rejected had asked her out for coffee, I'm kinda thinking I shouldn't do that. Dinner and movie is not my ideal first date, so I'm unsure what approach I should use?

A good first date with someone you may not be real intimate yet is one that involves an "activity." For example, find out if something is going on like a concert, art showing...something different that shows you are classy AND gives you something to start a conversation with. It also gives you an excuse to have a lull in a conversation because you might be looking at the art, listening to the band, etc. Then, if things are working out you can suggest coffee or continuing the date elsewhere.

Whatever you do, it's kind of nice to have a set plan that shows you're decisive and confident in the date.