i met this girl a few months ago. becouse i had a girlfriend we only talked to eachother then and then. i went single a few months ago and ive had about three dates with her so far. i told her i only se her as a friend so far and i want to take it easy a bit. last date we kiss closed. so naturally a few days later she texted me and asked if i wanted to be just a friend or something more . i told her we will se. she then texted me back to tell me she is not ready to have a relationship with anyone at the moment but that she likes me a lot. the problem is she lives about 2 hours from my town so i can only meet her like once a week. so i told her to come over here and spend a day with me becouse ive been to her town twice so far. becouse she is only 6-7 interms of looks i thaught i should be nice and not over do it. but im more intrested in her personality as we share a lot in common
her response has been like we will se! and ever since ive asked that question she has been fairly cold in responses. i asked if she could come in a week or two but she says she has to spend a lot of christmas time with her family and that she has no money to spend. and becouse im going on a vacation to another country i wont be back for a month or so.

yesterday she said i have to make my mind up about friendship or relationship and i said to her i can consider a relationship if we spend a good time together.



the biggest mistake i made was that i did not f-close her on the last date as she was pretty much into it. problem was i was too tired to do it.

so how do i take it from here? do i stop talking to her and stop sending messages and move on or do i keep talking and hope that she will agree to come over again in a month? i have no problems moving on if its neccasary.

another mistake i made with this girl has been that ive shared some heavy secrets with her about myself when i was with my GF and was talking to her as a friend in the past.

the problem is sometimes you se someone just as a friend and it changes over time. how do you tackle such a issue

All i can say is that you have to risk losing her to get more intimate.
I suggest you dont look at what she thinks. but at what you think and about what you want with her.

the problem is i would feel kinda foolish if i have to travel over to her town again. obviously i could do it. but i prefer if she came over. then again with her going slightly cold where do i go from here. stop texting and talking to her and wait for her intrest to return or keep talking hoping that she will come over asap?


what if she ends up getting a boyfriend in the mean time?
take risks or not thats the question.
unusual situation offcource.

a lot can happen in a month as well.

If you dont wanna go over there you could ask her to come to your town for a party offcourse. (If she sais no forget it)
And yes the risks are the hardest thing to overcome.
But you can not have succes if you cant take a risk.