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Well, I tried that last night.
Girl played along, closed the eyes, and told me the best qualities in her perfect man were the eyes, the hair and the smile.
She tried to open the eyes at the wrong moment and I told her "No! Keep your eyes closed!".
Then after she opened her eyes and closed again for the second part it went ok too, but in the end when I told her to ask me the questions she always wanted to make she kind had a weirded out face and said "That's weird!" and followed with "I don't know if I would ask 3 questions...".
I don't know I did it right or if it will have any result in the future. But I thought I should post it.
Thanks for your feedback Trying2bpua
Ok, i wanna point few things out about what you did.
The first thing is that she keeping her eyes shut aint whats the purpose behind the game. Its just a nice add to the game and pretty much indicates how much she has trust toward you ( IOT= Indicator of trust ). Like i said in my orginal post, keeping her eyes shut is something that can sharper her other senses ( I also indicated that keeping eyes closed a long period of time can make her uncomfortable ).. So if she opens her eyes at a wrong moment, dont panic. Its not what you are trying to benefit from the game. Instead, what you are really trying to achieve by useing this game is that she would be investing emotionally to you.. She is telling how she feels, what she finds attractive and pretty much shows that you care and listen what she has to say. Via this she should be able to trust you more in the future because you know more than just her name or what she does for living ( This is important when she is battleing in her mind whether she should have an ONS with you or not... Does she feel comfortable and safe enough to have sex with a stranger )
Pointer two. If you made her qualify her self to you in the stages 1 ( which was the phase where she would be qualifying her ideal man to you ) and 2 ( why she didnt ask those 3 questions from the guy she found attractive in her real life ), you allready have gained material what to use later on.. So basically even if she would come up with the anwser that " she actually wouldnt ask 3 questions in a real life", you still have made a deeper connection than what you would have achieved by asking something that doesent shock her in any way.
Telling something that has real emotional value like those questions you asked from her aint as easy to anwser than what the guys normally do when they " try to create a connection " ( for example whats your favourite food, are you having fun, etc. ).
So over all, what you need to understand is that you are just trying to make her open up to you more in a deeper level which actually has some proper value. When she is investing to you emotionally, at the same time you are building trust between you two due to the fact that you actually know something about her. This is kind of a " lock in " situation where the kongitive bond which ties you two together aint as easy to breake as it would be if you wouldnt have received any of her real interest/ emotions what she has deep in side of her.
This is actually the reason why so may patients fall in love to their therapists. Its because they seem to be the persons who actually listen and care what they have to say. They are investing emotional value to a person who than anwsers back with compassion and understanding. I believe this term was called the " transference "
[ Johnny B ]