Don't just bombard her with DHV stories. Do shit with her. Any sport is perfect, If you both like sports. And let her talk, most women love talking once you get them started.

As for kino, just like AA many ppl overanalyze it and are afraid to do something inappropriate. Just do it, casually grab her hand or touch her while talking and slowly escalate. If you do it slowly you cannot go wrong imho. If you need an excuse, you can do some palm reading, for example (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ywXkAoRvtJ0]).

The best way to escalate kino is to go dancing. If you are not good at it, maybe you can get her to go to a dancing class with you?

Fair enough. Personally, I really struggle with your earthling 'time'

Exactly. Women want to try and be involved in your life, not take you away from it. If they think they are the only thing in your life, it erodes attraction.