Hey all, my case is pretty much the same as Chillburg's. The only thing which is different is, in my case I promised her that she wouldn't regret this relationship when I was asking her to be my girlfriend. Okay I think you guys need to see how the conversation was going along to see what I mean.

This is part of the conversation we were having when I was asking her to be my girlfriend:

Her: How can you say that you like me even after all the times I let you down, and all the disagreements we've had

Me: C'mon, even married couples quarrel. The more important thing is that everytime after we quarrel, we become closer together. You wouldn't know until you gave it a chance, right?

Her: I liked you before, but I thought that I wasn't going to get anywhere with it so I tried to forget you.

Me: Let's give it a chance (I nearly put "me" instead of it, but that'd just be seeking approval so yeah), I promise you won't regret it.

For the last part, I actually kind of said it because my gut feel told me to. Anyway. The thing now is, I'm the one who seems to be doing all the work.

Yeah sure she told me that she's really busy now, because she's rushing back to her homeland for the holidays very soon, and as the guy I know I should be really understanding about this kinda thing so I've been messaging her everyday. If I don't message her, she never messages me either.


I have a feeling things aren't going quite as smoothly as I thought they would. Of course, I know that I'm actually partially to blame for reverting to an AFC frame in the past few days. What do you guys think I should do?

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THAT'S ME.

Act indifferent. Be kind, but do not lick her boots.
Don't take the initiative, give her time to process the fact that you seem not to care as much as before.
Wait and start seeing other girls, but DON'T say you're flirting with them, do not talk about them unless she asks and in that case, be evasive.
If she comes back to you all kind and butterflies instead of going right after her, take your time, wait some days, hang out 2/3 occasions with no kissing and etc and then decide if she deserves you back or not.

Remember, if she's with you great for her, if she's not then that's her problem.

I can tell you what's really going on. .. Would you like to know what I think? And it's not..

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She can't help it.

Your making yourself sound like some little enthusiastic boy whos never tasted a woman.
Never trust your "gut-feeling" without at least thinking twice. We've all gone through that same, hell I've gone through it many times during my life.
Today's society has put up the wrong idea of "dating and seeing girls" into our minds, and thats where your gut feelings are from. This is why there are so many AFCs out there.


Heres the thing. You don't actually "ask" a girl to be your girlfriend. You know it when you are with someone. Anyway, either she is with you or shes not, but you know you are the most important part of your life, so why would it matter?

Thats the right mindset.

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