Just wondering what you guys think of dates, and how to get out of being put in the boyfriend zone?

I've been chatting to a chick who seems really keen on me, so am thinking of going on a 'date' with her (kinda new for me). I guess I should tell her that I just want someone fun to hang out with, and that I'm not looking for a serious relationship or anything, but I also don't want to scare her away.

I'm interested in what real life experience others have?

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Don't tell her anything. Don't tell her you just want to be friends don't tell her you don't want a a relation ship. Go out with her, bring her out on a date or two and have fun. If she bring it up and she asks you where it is going tell her that you take it easy when it comes to stuff like that and that for now you are just seeing how things are going.

Well my advice is not to be so worried about what happens in the future. You haven't gone on any dates with her yet and she hasn't put any pressure on you to commit to anything yet. So I say, cross that road when it comes, but don't worry about it right now. Just have fun, and if she eventually gives you some pressure to commit, you can have the serious talk then. But who knows what will happen by then. That day might never come. She might not be interested in anything serious, or you might find that you two aren't compatible, or you might find someone else whom you like more. Who knows. Just take things one step at a time and don't overwhelm yourself with maybes.

Hang out with her only once a week.

Your still seeing her, but not often enough where she gets the idea of you as a boyfriend.

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Yeah i agree...I have a similar situation with this chick I recently met. I'm not really attracted to her that way so call/text/see her very infrequently. Over the weekend she even complained that I'd forgotten about her.

One funny thing I will admit though. I hooked up with her to see the midnight showing of Twilight when it opened the other week and she invited me in afterwards. It was like 3am and because I wasn't attracted to her I just played with her pussyCAT for the best part of an hour lol

It's all about setting the proper relationship frames.

Go out on a date with the girl and when you're having a great time tell her that you're having so much fun in life right now and that you're enjoying being single at the moment. There are many opportunties where you can say this and I plant it in many times throughout the dates to make sure "she gets it."

It's basically coming from and honest place.

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Cheers guys

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